(Closed) Graduate College Graduation

posted 5 years ago in College
  • poll: Graduation Ceremony, yay or nay?
    Girl, you are too old to be throwing parties. : (0 votes)
    Have your cake and eat it too -- with the sister. : (13 votes)
    29 %
    Have your party minus the AA meeting. : (30 votes)
    67 %
    I love polka dots! : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    9139 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    Definitely celebrate your degree with a party.  If his sister is still dealing with issues closer to the party then I wouldn’t invite her based on her previous behavior.

    On a side note, has the family considered having her committed to a treatment program ordered by the court?  In Florida it’s called a Marchman Act but I would assume other states have a way to order addicts and alcoholics into treatment programs.  It’s a last ditch effort so the family knows they have done everyhting possible to help a family member before cutting them off (which it sounds like your FI’s family is heading in that direction with his sister.)

    Post # 4
    925 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Girl, a Master’s is an accomplishment!!! Celebrate it!


    After I got my Bachelor’s in 2009, I threw a partaaaay… a big shebang. My out-of-town family flew in and everyting. I will be getting my Master’s this June (if I decide to “walk,” it will be in August), and was kind of in the same boat as you are… I didn’t know how far I should go in terms of a celebration. 


    My Future In-Laws made my decision for me, and will be having a small get-together at their house with me, my Fiance, my mother (and her husband… maybe… whoooole ‘nother story), and any friends/family who I want there. I think I’m going to just keep it simple and low-key and then maybe go out for drinks with my fellow graduates with whom I’ve become close.




    ETA: I would not invite the sister. You have already cut ties with her and so has your Fiance for “big” things like birthdays. She will only ruin your day. 

    Post # 6
    9139 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @deetroitwhat:  She’ll probably show up whether you invite her or not since the rest of the family willl probably invite her even if she doesn’t get a formal invitation.

    Post # 7
    680 posts
    Busy bee

    Definitely have a party! Don’t invite the sister.

    Post # 8
    1423 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Have a party!!

    I wouldn’t invite people to the ceremony, though.  Maybe your husband and your parents might want to go, and maybe your in-laws, but I can’t imagine anyone else would want to go.  If you invite people they might feel like they have to go, and grad ceremonies are not fun to sit through.

    Post # 11
    137 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2018

    When I finish my Master Degree I will be 31- and I will be partying like it is ‘1999’. So you Go Girl!!!!!. You Earn it!!!. It is your Day!!!

    Post # 12
    2610 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    Have the party! It’s a big accomplishment! I was so thrilled when I got my Master’s, I was actually the only one to graduate in my program that year (molecular biology)! So I stood out a lot at that ceremony when they asked the candidates for my degree to stand!

    I invited a small group of family and friends to the actual ceremony – parents, brother, SO, one aunt & uncle, and one of my best friends came too.

    We had a graduation party a few weeks later since graduation was on Mother’s Day weekend and it was so much fun to celebrate with everyone so enjoy that time!

    Don’t invite the sister though!

    Post # 13
    158 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @deetroitwhat:  Have the party.  A Masters is a huge accomplishment.


    I know your SIL is family to your husband and his family, but you have every right to forbid her from your party if you fear for your bodily safety.

    Post # 14
    2156 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @deetroitwhat:  Thanks for making this poll! I will be graduating with my Education Specialist Degree (Ed.S) in the beginning of May and I know I am going to walk at the ceremony, but can’t decided if I should invite more than just my dad, Fiance, and his parents. 

    We’re getting married in June, so my bridal shower should be around the time I graduate. Actually, I wouldn’t mind having the shower and graduating the same weekend since we live 4 hours out of town and wouldn’t want to drive back home one weekend after another to get all this done. The problem with that is I know whoever I invite to my graduation will be attending the shower too (with the exception of a few people), so I don’t want them to feel obligated to get me a grad gift and a shower gift in the same weekend. I mean, I wouldnt’ care if they didnt’ get me grad gifts, but I know they would want to, so I don’t want them to break the bank in one weekend.

    So, I think I’m going to invite my dad, Fiance, his parents, and maybe my Maid/Matron of Honor. Maybe go to dinner afterward. And then have the shower the same weekend. 

    Think that would be too much?

    Post # 16
    2156 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @deetroitwhat:  🙁 I’m so sorry to hear that! 

    My mother passed away right before I graduated with my undergraduate degree. I didn’t walk because I felt how you feel now. 

    But I’m definitely walking the ceremony for my Ed.S, because I know I have people (no matter how few) who are so proud of me for my accomplishments and would love to see me walk across that stage. 

    Do it for you! Do it for your hubby! I’m sure he would LOVE to see you walk! It doesn’t matter who won’t be there. 

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