(Closed) Graduates of the 6+ or 12+ Month TTC Club – Pep Talk Needed!

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Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

we ttc for a year and a half. Dh had sperm issues so I thought I was otherwise healthy because I’m 20 years younger than him andy cycles were regular. After that year and a half I went and saw a fertility specialist. Turns out my estrogen was like 0 and I wasn’t ovulating on my own. Took one cycle of clomid and now I’m pregnant!! I had lost all hope and I didn’t expect it to happen at all even with fertility medications. So I was very surprised to see the positive result. Keep your head up bee!! It’ll happen in perfect time!! And when you least expect it. 

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m sorry that you are feeling down.  I’ve been there.  After 6 months of TTC we finally got pregnant, only to lose it just shy of 6 weeks.  After resuming TTC in February, I had two more CP’s before getting KU in July.  I am now (hopefully) 10 weeks along.  Towards the end it really felt like we would never get that keeper baby, even though ever month it seamed like we got a little closer. I lost all of the excitement of thinking I could be pregnant, and it just felt like I was going through the motions every month.  

In the last few months of TTC I tried many new things that may have helped.  I started accupuncture.  I tried my best to eat more veggies and cut down on carbs.  I read the book ‘It starts with the egg’ and implemented many of the books recomendations.  I took upped my CoQ10 to 200mgs.  I started Fish oil.  It might sound crazy, but doing something new every month helped keep me somewhat interested in the process, and helped me keep the faith that at one point, something would help me and we would get pregnant.  

I hope you aren’t stuck on this rollercoaster much longer.  It’s a b****.  IN the mean time, do what you need to do to keep the faith that you will be pregnant, and eventually a Momma one day.  

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

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bgswifey:  Congrats on the pregnancy.

Could you please clarify “when you least expect it.”? I do not logically understand that cliché statement and it drives me kinda insane. Me and DH tried for a while, use OPKs every months, time bd and I am really hopeful every two week wait. Now we are getting help from an RE and are thinking to start IUIs. I will be taking meds on certain days, have a trigger shot, timed insemination, etc. When we put so much effort, emotions and everything else in the process how can possibly one “not expect it or least expect it”? Should I be going into the treatment with no hope or expectations at all (then what is the point), and if I somehow trick my brain to “not want it or not expect it”, (which I don’t think would be even possible) it will magically happen? I don’t get it.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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HaaaveYouMetTed:  we started TTC in May 2014, we TTC’d for 6mo (about 3 of that was with OPK’s and temping, pre-seed, lying horzitonal after BD during FE), had a CP in Nov 2014 and then got our sticky BFP (doing all the same stuff) Cycle 10 which was in February. It’s hard to believe but I’m 31wks with a healthy baby boy and now we are just getting ready for him. His due date is about 2wks before our loss date, which is kind of wild. 

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solnishko1186:  agreed! it just happens when it happens and that’s about all there is to it! It’s so hard when you’re waiting and wondering if it ever will, and barring a physical problem, for most people it eventually will, but it has nothing to do with hoping or not hoping, trying to stay positive (thats more just for your own sanity), “the right time”, or anything else people say. It just biologically works out when all the many factors combine just right, and for some that takes medical internevtion to get all of that lined up. And for some, like me, it just takes some time and a couple of pregnancies for one to work out! 

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Bumble bee

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HaaaveYouMetTed:  Sorry to hear about your struggles. It is hard to stay positive. I had my DD last summer but before that we tried for a solid year and a half. We had a miscarriage in there at 10 weeks, and I recently suffered a second one at 9 weeks. So I get the roller coaster all too well.

Stick to your people; your family, your friends, your husband. Vent as often as you need to and then after you vent, drop it and move on. Who knows why things work out the way they do but in the end, be happy for your health, stay positive and keep in mind that things do have a way of working out for the best.

Hang in there!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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HaaaveYouMetTed:  I tried to get testing after my 2nd CP this spring, but the OB I went to pretty much didn’t count my pregnancy losses because they weren’t clinical pregnancies.  I was going to go to a different OB and try harder for testing if I didn’t get pregnant by now, but luckily I didn’t need to go down that route.  

I am a little worried about my progresterone, even though I don’t think I have a reason to be.  The month we got KU I started eating a banana a day (I heard they were good for progresterone developement).  And now that I’m to the point where my HcG is tapering off, and my estrogen and progresertone are taking control, I’m starting to eat one to two a day also.  I was going to ask that my levels be tested, but I forgot during my last appointment.  

I think that something that I had been doing this past spring and summer helped me.  I’m not sure what it was, but I think the combination of accupuncture and CoQ10 were the most helpful.  And probably the diet changes.  

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We started TTC in 2012 and I had irregular and sometimes long-ish cycles, but did ovulate (I charted throughout). PG on cycle 4/month 4, early MC. Cycle starting with the MC ended up being long and anovulatory. Started ovulating again the cycle after, and another 4 cycles later got pregnant again. 10 months TTC total, and the second pregnancy stuck to the end where I had a little (not really, he was 10lbs 9.5oz and 22.5″ long!) boy. It’s hard to find support within your immediate friend group if nobody has experienced what you’re dealing with, though it’s not impossible if they care enough to put themselves in your shoes. When people say “at least you can get pregnant”, or “just relax and it will happen”, or “it happens to a lot of people” (referencing the MC/CP) it feels like an invalidation of every feeling you have. Forgive these people because they really just don’t have the scope to come at you with anything truly soothing or helpful, but that’s not their fault (they think they ARE being helpful). Relaxing does nothing. Just because you got pregnant once doesn’t equate to getting pregnant again, and it doesn’t make you feel better after a loss because instead of asking “will I ever get pregnant?”, you start asking “will I ever be able to carry a pregnancy to term? will i ever bring a baby home?”. And of course it happens to a lot of people, but this is happening to YOU, so who cares about everyone else in this moment you are hurting?
Have faith always in that the odds are always with you, that, until you are proven otherwise with time and effort, there is always hope. I’ll be crossing fingers and toes for you, lovey! GL! XOX

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Honey bee

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HaaaveYouMetTed:  It took us 1 1/2 years, but I also had an ectopic after 7 months of TTC. Miscarriages and ectopics suck, but the good news there is that you did get pregnant. Your DH has the goods to make it happen and so do you! I guess the one other thing I kept telling myself is that just because it hasn’t happened yet, doesn’t mean it won’t, and that it’s always hard to deal with planning anything when you have no idea when it will actually happen. I’ve seen so many stories from people on here that are just full of heartache and continuous bad crap happening, and I’ve seen many of those ladies move on with successful pregnancies. *hugs*

Oh and I got pregnant on my second IUI with clomid+gonalf+trigger shot. My first IUI didn’t work because the trigger shot used actually caused my eggs to *poof* and I never ovulated. It was a total mystery to my RE as to what happened and I seriously thought there was no way we’d be able to get it to work. I took a three month break from the RE and focused on being healthy and trying the old fashioned way. After three months I decided to go back, but insisted on a different protocol and a different trigger shot and it worked!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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solnishko1186:  you defined it already. I knew in my head that it was a possibility I could get pregnant with clomid but I had no hope in my heart. So I had no expectations other than to expect to keep trying. I hope I helped clarify 

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We got pregnant on our 15(ish?) month trying. We had actually pretty much stopped trying. We went through every test, and the only thing left was a lap to rule out endo for me. I was supposed to go in just this past week for it, actually. I wasn’t tracking or charting or doing anything anymore since we knew I was ovulating….we literally had drunk sex dor my husband’s bday, and I only knew I ovulated a few days later bc I get o spotting, but we weren’t trying to time it or anything. I only tested bc I was a day late and I knew “wasting” a test was sure to make AF show.

I have no idea why all of a sudden it worked….especially after all those months when I did everything “right” with preseed and OPKs and temping…never even got a squinter. I know people will likely say I’m now the poster child for “just relax and it will happen”, but that pisses me off so I refuse to agree πŸ˜› I do think some people really do just take longer, and there isn’t necessarily any rhyme or reason to it.

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