(Closed) Graduates of the 6+ or 12+ Month TTC Club – Pep Talk Needed!

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 16
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bgswifey:  So by that logic, it will only happen when one has “no hope in one’s heart.” So if one is hoping and trying to stay positive and “expect it” to happen, it will not happen? That makes no sense. So I should not hope for any treatments to work, is that what you are saying? Why bother trying then? It is a crapshoot of crap to say.

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solnishko1186:  I’m not sure why you’re being so snarky. And reading so much into a figure of speech. I’ve always heard it said that way. I’m sorry you’re offended?

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bgswifey:  Just because you “always heard it said that way” does not mean it is productive or helpful thing to say. It is not possible for someone who is ttc for a long time to not “expect it” and minimizes what they are going through and implies that somehow it is that person’s fault that she is not thinking in some proper way. Which is just not true. One’s thoughts have nothing to do with the biology of conception, some people do not want to get pregnant, but do, some expect it and track everything and hope and still do. But when people say those cliche phrases, it just makes ttc so much more painful of a process. For a lot of bees here, it is not as simple as “least expect it” and it will happen, those statements completly minimize what one is going through.

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solnishko1186:  like I said I’m sorry you’re offended and I never claimed this figure of speech to be scientific in any way. It’s meant to be light hearted, not a big deal. I was ttc for a very long time also and I’m aware of the pain. And everyone said exactly what I said to me. Let’s not bring this thread down a snarky way, shall we?

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Bumble bee
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HaaaveYouMetTed:  hoooray!!!!!!! happy dance!!!!

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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HaaaveYouMetTed:  that’s wonderful!  Congrats,  and hoping for a very sticky bean! 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Congratulations!!!!

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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HaaaveYouMetTed:  It took me 4 months to conceive this sticky baby boy, so I’m not going to pretend to know about TTC for a long time, but we both experienced our MCs around the same time months back and I wanted to tell you how amazing this is to see. Congrats and I am wishing you a very healthy and happy pregnancy!!

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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HaaaveYouMetTed:  Congrats! FX for a happy and healthy nine months to you! 

Post # 27
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i had my first bfp on my 24th cycle.  it took us 2 med cycles, 3 iuis, and 2 ivfs to be successful.  but we got there and i couldn’t be more excited.

  edited: just saw page 2 – congrats!

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  • Wedding: September 2013

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HaaaveYouMetTed:  we got pregnant with this sticky baby (29 weeks) after four mcs and a little over a year of trying.with this cycle, I had actually just picked up the prescription for Bridal Party that I was supposed to take so I could start a IVF cycle (the only way they can look at the embryos beforehand). I also stopped temping and stopped acupuncture since we weren’t really trying (I did use OPKs). I had also quit my job two weeks before. I’m over 35, so we had all the testing, and the official diagnosis was a string of really bad luck.

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Another hopeful story, after 3 years TTC including 3 failed IUI’s (one resulted in an ectopic pregnancy), my SIL got pregnant with Baby #1 during the couple months they had taken off of treatment to regroup before starting IVF. Baby #1 is healthy and happy. They got the surprise of a lifetime 6mo after she was born when she found out she was expecting again, they figured Baby #2 would take years to achieve, but there they were planning for two under 2. He’s now 2mo old and she’s 16mo. 

It’s all just so crazy and random sometimes as far as what works out and what doesn’t! 

We have some dear friends who have been TTC for over 2yrs and failed IUI’s and are starting IVF this month. I hope so much for them they get their baby soon! 

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bgswifey:  I’m sure you didn’t mean to hurt anyone’s feelings but it’s really not a lighthearted statement to bring into a group like this. Sometimes it happens when you least expect it (like an unwanted or even unplanned but very much wanted pregnancy) and sometimes it happens when it’s all you want in the world and some times it doesn’t happen regardless! It’s not about hoping or not hoping at all! 

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