(Closed) Graduation announcements – I don't get it

posted 6 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

Sounds exactly like the announcements/invitations my university provided. It’s a pretty standard format, but most people send them before the ceremony even though most people won’t be attending. 

For what it’s worth, we only sent mine to my aunts, uncles, and grandparents (aka, older relatives who would care that I graduated and not cousins, etc).

She probably should have sent it beforehand (or not to you at all), but what’s done is done.

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

They’re gift grabs.  We got one for our cousin’s daughter’s high school graduation on a Thursday night 5 states away. Obviously we weren’t going.  We sent a check because we’re fairly close to those cousins, but I knew full well it was a gift grab.

That said, my mom sent them against my will for my law school graduation (literally, I had no idea she ordered/sent them until I saw one on my grandmom’s fridge; I was flummoxed as to why so many people I never saw were sending me checks).  So it could be something like that.  I cashed the checks and wrote thank you cards; I mean, what else could I do? I’d look like a snot if I declined the gifts.  But I was just irritated with my mom especially because this was law school; I was 25 years old and hadn’t lived at home in a couple years… I mean, WTF.

Post # 19
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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audrey_lane:  Have you graduated and if so, did your cousins send graduation gifts?

As a cousin, you are further removed than your mother (the graduating girl’s aunt). I think this might be a good time to set a precedent and not send a gift.

Post # 20
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Worker bee

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audrey_lane:  so I didn’t send out invitations for my final graduation of my terminal degree this May. I figured hey, I’m in my late 20s and this is my 4th graduation, I dont need to do all that. Well, my family got a little ruffled about it and everyone seemed to think that when they didn’t get an invite, they weren’t invited (I don’t live near most of them so I’m not sure why this would even be an issue). So at least around my family, it was expected. I agree that graduation invitations are completely gift grabby and I thought I’d minimize that by not sending them out. Instead, I had to explain to everyone the details of the graduation And how no one (not even mom and dad) got invites! It was annoying. Bottom line, I guess some expect them, some don’t. 

Post # 22
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Worker bee

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audrey_lane:  everyone thinks lawyers have a lot of money……not so much. Especially with student loans. I’d not chip in and like a PP said, use the opportunity to distance yourself from gift grabby opportunities so they know you won’t be giving to these things all the time, as they arise.

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