(Closed) Grammar question help please!

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree. The correct form is “FI and me,” even though it sounds funny.

My grampa was an English teacher. This was hounded into me since I was a toddler.

Post # 4
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Newbee

“Thank you for inviting Fiance and I to the Christmas party” is the correct grammatical presentation when responding for more than one person.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I believe that the first sentence is correct. As a hint, if you take out one pronoun and it works as a sentence still, then that’s the correct form.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heinz Chapel Ceremony, Museum Reception

It’s “Thank you for inviting Fiance and me,” for the reasons you said. You write it as you would if Fiance were not included in the sentence. You could use ‘I’ if you were going to say something like, “FI and I would love to come to the Christmas party,” but for the sentence you want, it’s me. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2004

Definitely the first one.

You wouldn’t say, “Thank you for inviting I to the Christmas party.” Just take the other guy out of it whenever you need to check a sentence like that.

I taught three years of HS English, worked a few years in corporate communications, and am, in general, a big ol’ nerd.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Fiance and Me is correct! For the reason Carrie stated – you write the sentence like Fiance wasn’t included.

Thank you for inviting meThank you for inviting Fiance and me!

I went to the store – Fiance and I went to the store!

Hope this helps!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

You can always say “us!”

Then follow it up with soemthing like “Hisname enjoyed meeting you.”

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

First one is correct.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Actually the second one is correct. Its a rule when referring to more than one person you always put yourself last.

Guess this post is so late it wouldn’t matter anyway.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Its always been ‘Soandso and I’. Its just what we always say and its more proper to put whoever before I in a sentence.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

plaugher85, picturemeurs, and CO919-  If the pronoun is acting as the direct object in the sentence the pronoun is always me-  not I, regardless of accompaniment.  You wouldn’t say, “Thanks for inviting I to the party.”

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

You’re right. (It does sound silly, though, I agree.)

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Like staying_ms_shaw said, the first is absolutely correct.

An easy way to check (in addition to the ways already proposed) is to simplify it: would you say us or we? “We” correlates to “I” and is a subject; “us” correlates to “me” and is a direct object.

So anywhere that you’d say “us” you always, always say “xx and me.” And if you’d say “we,” you should say “xx and I.”

So: “Thank you for inviting Fiance and me [or us] to your party,” but “FI and I [or we] were delighted to attend your party—thank you!”

(My mom was an English teacher so this stuff is instilled in me! 🙂

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