(Closed) Grammar Question on Invitations

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

It’s exactly as Laurenplusalex said. That comma at the end of the series is called the London Comma. In the U.S., you always put a comma before the last thing in the series (i.e., Thing A, Thing B, and Thing C). I’m not as familiar with British grammar, but I don’t think the London comma is mandatory (i.e., Thing A, Thing B and Thing C).

I’m not sure where you live, OP, but go with whatever convention is used in your area. Hope this helps!

Post # 5
1696 posts
Bumble bee

thelittleone:  “Closed” punctuation is considered more upper-class in England, too: it’s ommission is the norm for journalism which is racey and efficient, and presumably has no time for the measured pauses in conversation represented by commas — or perhaps no time for the typesetter to waste putting in unnecessary type, or for the unnecessary waste of an entire en of column-space. Use the comma anyway, unless you are writing for the newspaper, or for a legal document.

And (outside of journalism) “closed” punctuation tends to be the norm in Canada, too.


Post # 6
413 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

thelittleone:  I love commas. I say use it after Mrs. Jane Doe!

Post # 7
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

thelittleone:  Either way is grammatically correct in the U.S.! I prefer to put the comma after Mrs. Jane Doe, but that’s just personal preference.

Post # 8
9549 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have always called that last comman the Oxford Comma and I always remember it by this cartoon:

Post # 9
3785 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Either is now acceptable in the US.

And just for fun:

Post # 10
1751 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I’m in the US, and I’ve heard it referred to as the Oxford comma.  I always use it, and I think it looks better.  However, I tend to be a little comma-happy in all situations.  

Whenever my writing gets edited, people usually take it out, which makes me strangely sad. So, in that regard, I’d almost say it’s more common to not use it.  I think it just comes down to personal preference!

Post # 11
1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

If the couple is married and has the same last name, you do not  need to separate their names completely. I think it should be:

Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe

and Family

Post # 12
8816 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013


thelittleone:  you should either say:

Doe Family


Mr. and Mrs. John Doe and Family


just be sure that including Family without specific names may bring you back more RSVPs that you thought you would get.

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