(Closed) Grammar/Spelling

posted 10 months ago in The Lounge
Post # 31
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Helper bee

If I see one more “Hi Bee’s”….

Post # 32
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

You will not be walking down the isle to your beloved. 

You won’t be saying your vows at an alter.

Fiancée is a bethrothed woman. Fiancé is a man who is engaged.

And the one that makes me scream into my throw pillow. Even Cher does this and I cannot stand it:

There is no such thing as could of. Nor any permutation thereof, such as would of or should of. 

 

Answer key

You will walk down the aisle to meet your sweetheart at the altar. 

You briefly wonder what your life would have been like all these years if your fiancé hadn’t come along when he did.

 

I try very hard not to monitor spelling and grammar. As a wordsmith, it’s hard to do.  It’s like walking past a crooked painting on someone’s wall.

Post # 33
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

bethio :  

Aaahh, the double negative.  Dh doesn’t believe in those.  I have spent countless hours trying to explain double negatives to him, ie if you could care less, that means you are capable of caring less than you do right now.  So, it has the opposite meaning of what the speaker probably intended.  She probably meant: I couldn’t care less.

 

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969 - City, State

jayrock :  Why does that drive you nuts? The use of “that” adds specificity and can be quite helpful in some instances. Say you have 2 friends, one got married in 2017, and another in 2015, and both are expecting. Helps to know which friend you are referring to in that instance. 

 

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Most of the ones that I find most bothersome have already been mentioned, but I’ve got a couple to add:

1. Upmost respect

2. Peaked my interest 

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

pnwlove :  My father in law uses “I seen”. It drives me so crazy! Who talks like that?! I’ve known the man for years and it still makes me a bit bananas when he says “I seen that”, which happens about 10 times a day. He’s from Iowa. I’m assuming it is regional. Thank goodness my husband didn’t pick up that phrase.

OP – My biggest issues are with unnecessary apostrophes, and the horrifying “I could care less”. Like, you know what I actually could care less about?  Grammar. Because I do care about it. A lot. 

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

kissthesunkisstherain :  I think she is frustrated because it should be “who”, not “that”. People often use them interchangeably. It’s supposed to be “My friend who got married last year”.

“That” is used in reference to objects, such as in “My dresser that has blue drawers”. We wouldn’t say “My dresser who has blue drawers”, just as we shouldn’t say “My friend that wore the red dress”. 

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

sunburn :  interesting you say this. You called someone out YESTERDAY for poor grammar. It was rude and didn’t need to be done; especially as the first post in reply, sets a yucky tone for the weddingbee community. 

My own personal pet peeve is “for all intensive purposes”.

Post # 39
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Honey bee

teacher-bee-in-the-sea :  

The poster stated that she was a teacher. I stand by what I said, and I also gave advice. Sorry it bothers you, but I hold teachers to a higher standard, as they tend to have a strong influence on young people. 

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

sunburn :  but this is an Internet forum, she was clearly upset and her grammar was not the point of her issue. Be kind, is all I’m saying. 

Post # 41
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Honey bee

teacher-bee-in-the-sea :  I am kind. I am also opinionated. If all I did was post about grammar issues you might have a point, but obviously I do not. In this case I felt the correction was warranted. You are free to disagreee.

Post # 42
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

In addition to what’s posted already, I hate when someone says to “nip it in the butt”. It’s ‘bud,’ like a plant bud. As in stop it before it grows out of control. Not bite it in the ass. There’s another phrase that’s often wrong here too but I can’t think of it offhand.

There is a difference in giving information that can help a person sound more educated when they speak and shaming them about it. Making a note of the incorrect phrasing while also responding to the post itself isn’t shaming. Saying “how old are you? Focus on your education first” is a lot more patronizing and unhelpful. I’d rather someone pointed out my error so I could grow and learn than roll their eyes, insult me and move on. 

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

How much an error irritates me tends to depend on the setting and the perpetrator. I’m a lot more lax on here as opposed to a work email or an academic paper. I tend to be quite colloquial here, so I can hardly get annoyed at people who use regional sayings. Besides, the English language is constantly evolving. I’m sure people were once complaining about the new trend of “you” and “your,”  contractions, etc.

That being said if you come at me with an attitude and try to call me out on something but can’t be bothered to know the difference between they’re/there/their or you’re/your, I’m definitely going to side eye you.

Post # 44
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Honey bee

skunktastic :  “Nip it in the butt” – that always cracks me up.

Post # 45
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Bumble bee

I believe in most cases people do not like mistakes to be noticed/ pointed out/ corrected, period. Whether it is grammer or anything else. 

There are varying levels of education and the English language is constantly evolving so what is not considered proper English at this point in time, could very well be just fine in the future. 

 

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