Post # 1
We have our photographers booked from 1p-9p. Our photographer suggested doing our grand exit at 9, as a fake grand exit so all our guests can be included and they can snap the pics and then leave. Meanwhile we go back in and party a little longer. I was wondering if any one else has done this? Our options are to A. Do grand exit early and leave early B. Do grand exit early, have a non-organic exit and then an awkward real goodbye later? C. Hire them for extra hours (don’t really have the money in our budget any more). I am happy with B, but do you think people will think it is weird? Also, what do we do when we are actually wanting to leave?
Post # 2
It would seem a little weird as a guest but I wouldn’t extend your photographers hours just to capture one specific thing. What exactly were you thinking? Like a sparkler send-off or something? You could just have the DJ or whoever be like, “everyone please go outside for a special sparkler photo with the B&G” and not even call it a send-off.
Post # 3
I think its silly, but I think using your guests as photo props is also silly. Kind of the epitome of “only doing it for instagram” mentality.
Post # 4
I despise fake exits and using guests as props in pictures.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 29th, 2016
madilynnnne : I’ve actually never seen a “grand exit” in real life at the weddings I’ve attended, except from the church, but not at the venue at the end of the night. It sounds silly to do a fake one just for pictures. When you want to leave, just go. I also haven’t been to a wedding where the couple was ready to leave before the guests… Usually the crowd thins out and family and close friends are there helping out as needed.
Post # 6
I’ve always heard that guests usually leave afterwards because it’s weird and difficult to get back into party mode after that.
I’ve only personally had one experience with it. My FSIL’s wedding had a fake send off photo op and as a guest, it was pretty obnoxious. The wind was blowing her hair or something so she had us all line up again to do it a second time. There’s something weird about demanding your guests cheer for you on cue. Afterwards everyone awkwardly stood around outside for a few minutes and then just went to their cars. I don’t think anyone even went back into the reception unless they had to grab a coat or pee.
Post # 7
madilynnnne : Never heard of this being done but I think it’s a pretty neat idea. Just kind of time consuming to gather all your guests?
Post # 8
madilynnnne : it’s weird. if you want prop pics of your exit, hire them for the extra hours. otherwise, don’t get pro pics.
Post # 9
madilynnnne : Can you do it between ceremony and reception? We did one then, as did most of our friends that had a grand exit shot. The few I have been to that had an end of a night one generally had a friend take a photo instead of the professionals and the pictures were not great.
Post # 10
loveisbrewing : I like this! I will have to talk about it with our photographer! Just don’t want the moment to feel forced!
jellybellynelly : I don’t think guests are being used as props, we just want to make sure we have their faces in our pictures. There is a reason we have invited them, we want them included in our day and that also includes our pictures!
ladyvictoria : I totally agree, maybe we will forego the exit all together!
Post # 11
bretagne422 : It definitely feels forced. I would much rather get rid of it than it be forced!
catskillsinjune : Thanks! Noted!
larissakay : That’s definitely an idea!
Post # 12
We did a fake exit for our videographer. It wasn’t a grand exit, it was just the two of us.
It seemed silly at the time, but it ends the video nice, inside of just cutting off in the middle of a dance.
There are different ways you could approach this. I like PPs idea of calling it just a sparkle photo. “Send off” might make it seem like it’s either time for guests to leave or you want to go home. You could also just have the bridal party in the photo, so it’s not quite so announced.
Post # 13
I’m thinking of something similar. My photographer also suggested asking everyone to meet outside for a picture and not calling it a “send off.”
Post # 14
madilynnnne : Option D. You don’t get a photographed exit.
Absolutely don’t leave the reception early (this is your freaking wedding reception) and don’t make your guests pose a fake exit. As a guest when this has been done, it’s been SO boring and awkward and totally kills the move just for one photo the bride and groom will look at for a hot second.
Post # 15
I don’t see a problem with this, just call it a photo shoot. I wish I had all my guests faces in a photo! I’ve never seen one to be honest. I did see a photo of everyone in a panorama on the dance floorin one photographers portfolio. It was really really nice!