Post # 31
Your grandfather was wrong to threaten you, but I also think it’s wrong to exclude local adult relatives, especially when you’re not doing even cut-offs on both sides of the family. It would be one thing if you’d had an active falling out with these people, but just not knowing/liking them very much isn’t really a great reason. It’s just not worth starting a family feud for this.
And you can invite the adults without inviting their children; the fact that they’re local actually helps with this.
Post # 32
I’m not usually one to give in, but if you’re staying with them for a few weeks around the wedding, your grandma has offered to pay for them, and you suspect your grandpa’s occasional stroppiness may be due to a stroke he’s had, I’d just let them include these people even if you’re not close to them. I’m not condoning your grandpa’s behaviour, just that I’d let this go. Even just for the sake of you and your fiance if you’ll be staying with the grandparents for a bit, this just doesn’t seem worth the stress.