(Closed) Grandfather diagnosed with stage four cancer

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MandaL:  I think you should have the wedding you want, when you can afford to have it. I suspect that your grandfather would rather you get married after he passes or when he is really sick than to have you rush through it and have it be not what you want. I’m sorry to hear he has been diagnosed at such a late stage.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

my mom was diagnosed with brain cancer 3 months before our wedding.  She was expected to live 6-12 months.  3 weeks before the wedding she took a turn for the worst.  We got on a plane and 36 hours later got married by a Justice of the Peace in front of just a small group of close family friends, his mom and stepdad, my brother, his sister, my dad and my mom in her hospital bed.  It was in a hospital and was the last thing I ever wanted…  but my mom was there smiling.  We got photos with her and she was happy.  It was the last day she was really with it.  our cake was from the local supermarket, my brothers girlfriend and I made our bouquets from supermarket flowers, I wore a plain white (totally not bridal) dress and my husband work khakis and a button down shirt with a tie, my brother and his girlfriend (who has been like a sister to me for years) were our best man and maid of honor, and it was by all normal definitions a horrible wedding.  That being said, I wouldn’t trade it for anything.  My mom got to see us get married, and I have a photo of her with my entire family (old and new) smiling.  She passed away a few days later.  We still had the wedding we had been planning 2 weeks after her passing, but I can’t imagine not having her see us get married.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

so sorry to hear this 🙁 your family is def in my prayers! *hug*

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

@MandaL:  You can definately pull together a quick low budget wedding. The most important thing is that you are getting married to the person you love in front of your loved ones. Whilst we all want the bells and whistle really that is just the pagentry and isn’t at all important to the end goal! People all around the world get married without the big ceremony and reception all the time- the western world just puts such an emphasis on that stuff. I think it would be good to weight up what is more important to you- the big wedding or having your grandfather there? The only peopel that can make the decision are you and your Fiance.

Does anyone in your family have a house with a great bakyard for the wedding? or a local park or community hall?  Can you purchase an off the rack or second hand dress? Is there a local catering company that can do a picnic lunch (or even family because I think in this case it is definately acceptable to request some help from family). Or if you are a member of a church community can they help to pull off a small wedding?

Good luck and I am so sorry to hear of your bad news.

 

@trueblue39:  I am sorry that your mother passed away. I am sure she loved being able to see you get married.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My fiancé’s gradnfather/closest thing he had to a father was diagnosed with stage four colon cancer and passed 3 weeks after his diagnosis. It is one of my biggest regrets that he will not get to see Ryan’s wedding.

I say yes have your dream wedding, but include your grandpa in it as much as you can, show him things you know he’d love to see.I wish i would have brought him our engagement picture or maybe shown him pictures of the venue.

The first thing said to my fiancé and I after he passed was “he was so excited to see your wedding” and that hurts the most. So make sure you just include him as much as you can.

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m so sorry. *HUGS*

I don’t have any real advice, but I just wanted to say that I know how you feel.

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