(Closed) Grandfather who past away…advice

posted 11 years ago in Family
Post # 3
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My grandfather passed away 10 years ago, but it is still fresh for my grandmother, I’m planning on having his favorite flowers at the wedding (Birds of paradise).  it wont be obvious to anyone who didnt know him, but it will be clear to my immediate family that he’s there wiht us. and it hopesfully wotn be somethign that its too much from my grandma to handle.

Post # 4
21 posts
  • Wedding: February 2010

I saw someone do this on tv and thought it was a great idea. They put a red rose where the person who passed would of sat so not to forget about them. I am thinking of doing this for an Aunt who passed away that I was very close too.

Post # 6
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I know some people do memorial flowers/candles at the front of the altar to commemorate a loved one and make note of it in the program. We’re doing candles for the six grandparents who can’t be with us anymore. We’re also having a photo display at the reception on the table with the guest book, and it will include loved ones who’ve passed away.

Post # 7
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I’ve seen people mention their deceased loved ones in the program, make a donation to a charity they supported, place pictures of them (like your grandparents wedding picture) near the guest book at the reception, or light a candle during the ceremony in memory of them.

While I think the idea of placing a flower where they would have been seated is very touching- I think it would fall under the ‘tear jerker’ category.  My cousin did this in memory of her mother who had recently passed before the wedding.  It was very emotional seeing that place of honor empty except for flowers.  Imagine your grandma sitting next to an empty seat.  I think it would be better for her to be seated next to a loved one.

I’m sorry for your loss.  Just try to remember that your grandpa would be so sad to see you and your grandmother greiving this way.  I’m sure he would want you to be happy and celebrate- not mourn and diminish your joy.

Post # 9
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m gonna do probably on a table near the sign in book, a remembrance  candle and will have (might just do the photo centerpiece idea for this) pics of my father and some of his parents all of whom have passed.  I also will have a white rose laying beside the candle/photos and on either side two hats which remind me of him:  his air force dress hat, and his "Mr. Fix It" baseball hat.

Post # 10
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We’re going to have a memorial table at my wedding with an engraved vase with his favorite flowers, a framed poem that I found online that is totally him, and my brother is an artist so he is going to draw him and we’ll frame that as well. We’re also thinking of using awareness bracelets as favors since he died of multiple sclerosis.

Post # 12
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

If you can talk about this with your grandmother, I think you should. She’ll be happy just to know that you are considering honoring your grandfather. Your mom may not realize that this is pretty common as we’ve all lost family/ friends we want to share our weddings with. Your grandmother might be able to help you choose the best idea or come up with another good idea. Plus, it might be good for her to know what you’re thinking ahead of time so you don’t overwhelm her the day of.

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