Post # 32
Oh, this is sad…! I’m sorry that your grandfather isn’t willing to come to your wedding over this. Have you tried to talk to him in person/over the phone about it at all? (It sounds like some of the initial conversation occurred over FB) I think he might regret not attending your wedding and it sounds like he’s getting wrapped up in something that has nothing to do with your wedding. I know the responsibility shouldn’t be on you to make the extra effort but if you will regret not having him there, you might want to consider reaching out to him again.
Post # 33
If he wants to be a close-minded judgemental person, he doesn’t need to be in your life. HIs loss! Surround yourself with love. You’ll be happier for it.
Post # 34
How sad that he would choose anger and resentment and bitterness over love and humility and patience. I’m no Christian, but whatever happened to not casting stones? Or the Beatitudes? I would write him a long and thoughtful letter expressing disappointment in him and sorrow that after so many years of trying earnestly to live a good life, he’s reaping such bitter fruit. You can’t control whether or not he’ll come, but you can at least communicate your own thoughts and feelings on the subject in terms that may resonate with him.
Post # 35
When my grandmother first found out she was dying, one of the first things she said to us was how much she regretted spending time in her life being angry over other people’s lives (my aunt is gay and it took her a while to come to terms with it). I think every person who has spent more than 5 microseconds being bothered by gay people and gay people wanting to get married will end up with the same regret. I think without you getting in to a discussion about the issue, you can ask him , no matter how he feels about it, if he really thinks its worth spending any more of his time being angry about it.
Post # 36
So sad. My heart goes out to you.
I agreee with the PP’s about writing a heart felt letter.
Maybe even go so far as to tell him that you will save a place for him, no matter how last minute he may change his mind?
Post # 37
I’m glad I’m not the only one readily stirring up drama at my wedding in solid support of something that should have been done a long time ago. Thanks for your efforts! 🙂
Post # 38
I’m sorry your grandfather is so closeminded and can’t accept love for what it is. I can’t fathom how anyone can be against SSM, let alone against someone’s opinion about it, when it really doesn’t effect them at all. It’s baffling.
If he doesn’t come, it’s his loss. Just try and enjoy your day.
Post # 39
Honestly? He’ll get over it once he realises what a child he was being. Ignore him for now, and then in a few months send out a letter with another invitation saying that, although you may not always see eye to eye, you will be reserving him a space at your wedding should he decide to come, and you would appreciate his company.
Make two seating plans… one for if he comes, and one for if he doesn’t. Give them both to your day of co-ordinator, and get a family member to call him the day before to check whether he is coming or not.
My guess is that he will come.
Post # 40
This 100% . I am sorry that you have to deal with this. But I agree that giving in to him will make him think he’s OK to demand things his way at all times. @Rachel631:
‘s idea is a good one as well.
Please do not change your beliefs to please anyone. The gay community – scrap that – the world needs as many vocal people as possible standing up for the rights of individuals to be able to marry the person they love, if they so wish!
Post # 41
I don’t see how people still, in this day and age, do not support marriage equality.