(Closed) Grandma gave me pearls during dress shopping. Do I have to wear them?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: My grandmother gave me pearls while I was dress shopping. Do I have to wear them?
    No, tactfully tell her that you and FI had something else in mind : (7 votes)
    4 %
    No, but wear it to the rehearsal dinner : (68 votes)
    38 %
    Yes, you would really hurt her if you didn't wear them. : (103 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 3
    12956 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would probably wear them because of the sentimental value – but I also love pearls.  What does your mother think?

    Post # 4
    715 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Oh, that’s tough. Do you think you could carry them with you instead? Maybe tuck them in your bouquet?  That way, you’re acknowledging the sentimentality of it, but not necessarily wearing them like she thought? 


    Or maybe you could swap out your actually jewelry for a few photo ops with your grandmother?

    Post # 5
    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Is there a specific reason your and your Fiance are so agaisnt you wearing pearls? That might help us in suggestions of what to do.

    Post # 6
    1433 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

    Why are you and your Fiance against the pearls? I’m confused. 

    I would wear them in a heartbeat. How sentimental.

    Post # 7
    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Could you wear them for the ceremony and change necklaces for the reception?

    Post # 8
    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Yeah I’m not getting your aversion to pearls either.  Do they not go with the dress?

    Post # 9
    374 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would seriously HATE to upset my grandmother, so I would wear them if I were you.  

    Are you guys really close? If not, then maybe it would be ok not to wear them. But still I think you should wear them.

    Post # 10
    1828 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i think it would be nice to either wrap them around your bouquet or wear them as a bracelet, if possible. that was very sweet of her.

    im assuming pearls dont go with your dress? i was very anti-pearl when it came to my jewelery search. they really just don’t go with my look.

    Post # 11
    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I think some things transcend keeping with a “wedding look.” It was very sweet and thoughtful of your grandmother to give you those pearls. I would have given anything to have either of my grandmothers see me get married. I’d wear them, but that’s just me.

    Also… why does your Fiance care or have an opinion about what jewelry you’re wearing?

    Post # 12
    2981 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’d wear them. It’s so beautiful that your sweet grandmother gave you something so obviously dear to her to wear on your wedding day.

    What were you planning on wearing? Pearls are one of the classiest forms of wedding jewelry out there, IMveryhumbleO.


    Post # 13
    1614 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    You could also be creative with them and wrap them around your wrist a few times or as part of your hair updoo…just a thought!

    Post # 15
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I think wearing it around your bouquet or wrist are good compromises if the pearls don’t go with the dress. Just explain to her that it doesn’t exactly match as a necklace.

    Post # 16
    46329 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Two more options:

    -get an extender so the pearl necklace hangs lower- you can also add a brooch or use another necklace as  an extender

    -wear the pearl choker with another necklace (or necklaces) that have pearls in them for a unified look and more of a statement necklace


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