Post # 1
I wore fake pearls when I was dress shopping with my mom and grandma just because I had them and wanted to put some nice necklace on, not because I love pearls or planned to wear them. The second go-round, my grandmother tearfully gave me her first set of pearls she owned. They are lovely-for pearls. But I REALLY don’t want to wear them and Fiance doesn’t want me to, either. Do I have to wear them?
Post # 3
I would probably wear them because of the sentimental value – but I also love pearls. What does your mother think?
Post # 4
Oh, that’s tough. Do you think you could carry them with you instead? Maybe tuck them in your bouquet? That way, you’re acknowledging the sentimentality of it, but not necessarily wearing them like she thought?
Or maybe you could swap out your actually jewelry for a few photo ops with your grandmother?
Post # 5
Is there a specific reason your and your Fiance are so agaisnt you wearing pearls? That might help us in suggestions of what to do.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
Why are you and your Fiance against the pearls? I’m confused.
I would wear them in a heartbeat. How sentimental.
Post # 7
Could you wear them for the ceremony and change necklaces for the reception?
Post # 8
Yeah I’m not getting your aversion to pearls either. Do they not go with the dress?
Post # 9
I would seriously HATE to upset my grandmother, so I would wear them if I were you.
Are you guys really close? If not, then maybe it would be ok not to wear them. But still I think you should wear them.
Post # 10
i think it would be nice to either wrap them around your bouquet or wear them as a bracelet, if possible. that was very sweet of her.
im assuming pearls dont go with your dress? i was very anti-pearl when it came to my jewelery search. they really just don’t go with my look.
Post # 11
I think some things transcend keeping with a “wedding look.” It was very sweet and thoughtful of your grandmother to give you those pearls. I would have given anything to have either of my grandmothers see me get married. I’d wear them, but that’s just me.
Also… why does your Fiance care or have an opinion about what jewelry you’re wearing?
Post # 12
I’d wear them. It’s so beautiful that your sweet grandmother gave you something so obviously dear to her to wear on your wedding day.
What were you planning on wearing? Pearls are one of the classiest forms of wedding jewelry out there, IMveryhumbleO.
Post # 13
You could also be creative with them and wrap them around your wrist a few times or as part of your hair updoo…just a thought!
Post # 14
You guys are so helpful! Love this board.
My grandmother and I are extremely close so I definitely don’t want to hurt her. And it was beautiful and sweet of her to give them to me- she’s the best. My mom and she are very close (though she’s my dad’s mom) and my mom thinks I don’t have to.
I get what you’re saying that my Fiance doesn’t have a say, but on the other hand, I am marrying him and want him to love how i look. We both think pearls are old-fashioned (these are 65-70 years old!) and a bit clunky. This is also a choker and my dress is a sweetheart, so it will be a lot of bare chest with them. I had just had something more blingy in mind and with a cut that matches the cut of a dress. Silver with crystals/beads/etc that was Y-shaped.
I think switching for the reception or even wearing it around my bouquet are lovely ideas. Though they’d still be in all the pictures if I wore it for the ceremony as we’re taking pictures before the ceremony. Both are excellent ideas. I’m also still considering just wearing them. I’ll see if I can find a picture I took that day with me in them (different dress than I bought though).
Post # 15
I think wearing it around your bouquet or wrist are good compromises if the pearls don’t go with the dress. Just explain to her that it doesn’t exactly match as a necklace.
Post # 16
Two more options:
-get an extender so the pearl necklace hangs lower- you can also add a brooch or use another necklace as an extender
-wear the pearl choker with another necklace (or necklaces) that have pearls in them for a unified look and more of a statement necklace