Post # 1
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Blushing bee
My Fiance and I were on holiday’s last week and when we came back we found out that my Grandma passed away suddenly and unexpectedly. I am just devistated right now and all I want to do is cry. My wedding is less then two months away and she was so excited to come to it and now I can’t believe she won’t be there. I would really like to do something special on my wedding day to honor her and the rest of my family that has passed in the last couple of years. We were thinking of a toast but I doubt I will be able to hold it together for that.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how we can honor our loved ones that are not with us anymore at the wedding?
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
I am so sorry to hear about your grandma. I am still devastated that my grandfather will not be at my wedding.
At the end of our program we have a special dedication to my grandfather and my FI’s father who have both passed away.
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my Papa a year and a half ago, so I understand your pain. It was also unexpectedly. We are having vases with candles in them that say a nice little message about the person. Fiance also lost his grandmother so we are having one for her as well. We will be setting a table up at the reception near the sign in book. You can find the vases on Etsy, and also various other places online.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
So sorry to hear that 🙁 We’ll have the flowers at the front dedicated to my Mee Mee who passed away, and my FI’s grandparents, and it’ll be noted in the program.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
You have my condolences for your loss. I lost my grandmother and two uncles earlier in the year and it’s not an easy thing to deal with…that’s for sure.
Some suggestions to honor your grandmother:
- Have a photo and a rose placed in “her” seat at the wedding
- Have a special reading printed in the back of the program honoring her
- Do a special reading in her honor
- Incorporate something of hers into your wedding ensemble. A scarf, maybe a favorite brooch that you can pin to your bouquet…somthing along those lines
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
I’m so sorry for your loss. Losing someone is never easy. I wish there was something I could say other than that, but words don’t really work. *hugs
As for what to do to honor them, I’m honoring my Moose (my baby) by wrapping a necklace with a moose on it around my bouquet. It’s very special to me because it was given to me by my best friend after McGroom and I lost Moose. She searched so hard for it and I’ve worn it everyday since. Granted, you may not have soemthing you wear all the time, but is there something like that you can wear? Maybe use her favorite color and wrap your bouquet in a ribbon that color?
Again, I am so sorry for your loss.
Post # 8
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Honey bee
Oh no, I’m so sorry for your loss. I like the ideas already suggested to honor her and your other relatives. I’d put something in your bouquet that belonged to her. Or a picture of her in a locket that you can drape around the bouquet. Or maybe photos of them on the placecard table, so everyone has a chance to see them.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
How awful! I am so so sorry for your loss. I know how special it would have been to share your wedding with her (believe me, I always assumed both my grandparents would live to see me get married). You should can most definitely put photos up in your ceremony and/or reception space, invite friends and family to create a memory book or tell anedotes about her during speeches and toasts. Wear something of hers that is special to you. Dance to a song that she loved. There are so many ways you can honor her and make it feel as though she is present (which she will be, just not physically).
Post # 10
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Newbee
Im sorry for your loss. It’s such a hard thing to go through, but remember she will still be there watching over you on your day!
We have my maternal grandparents, his father and grandfathers, and a really close friend of mine that we will be missing on our day. What we are doing is having a small (think one of those little round ones) memory table. We have 4×6 black and white photos of the people and we got simple white frames for them and are putting these along with some white roses on the table.
Post # 11
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Helper bee
Oh my! I’m so sorry. I lost my gram last year, she died unexpectedly as well. But I can’t imagine losing her so close to the wedding!
If you haven’t already printed the programs, you could put a note in them honoring her memory. Or you could have the officiant address it, I am sure he or she would know how to honor her!
I second the idea of a photo of lost loved ones, perhaps at the altar or at a welcome table.
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your grandma. You are definitely in my thoughts. I would like to second all of the suggestions made by JamaicaBride. I think she offered some incredibly thoughtful ways to honor your grandma.
Post # 13
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Newbee
We plan on having a table with a photo of our loved ones that have passed…I think a picture charm or her favorite brooch added to your bouquet would be a nice rememberance…
Post # 14
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Busy bee
My grandfather passed away almost 5 years ago and Hubby only has one living grandparent so finding a way to honor them was really important to us. We released balloons to heaven in rememberance to those we were missing at the beginning of our ceremony. It gave us a minute to quietly reflect on our memories and then continue our day without becoming too sad. Also one thing we realized afterwards is that because I got ready at my grandma’s house, in one of the pictures of my mom and grandma helping me dress there is a big picture of my grandpa in the backround like he was looking down on us at that moment. I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope you find something that works for you on your special day.
Post # 15
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Helper bee
I’m so sorry to hear this.
Fiance is planning on saving two chairs for his gramma and grampa, and putting their pictures on them. I think it’s a great idea.
