(Closed) grandma Shower

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 16
2425 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think this would be great only if the grandmother is going to be watching the baby a majority of the time other wise I find it really gift grabby. 

Post # 17
3008 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

KingsDaughter:  Maybe if the grandma has custody of her grandchild it would be ok…..

Post # 18
1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

KingsDaughter:  I was recently speaking to Mother-In-Law about the shower she MUST throw me – seperate of the shower that is already planned (although I appreciate the love, I HATE showers and only wanted ONE…but, I digress).  She told me she is inviting EVERYone she knows to her shower, and to ensure I register for enough items to cover both showers!  (The one I had a say in planning is a month before the one she is insisting on throwing me).  

When I politely told her I will do what I can, and know there will be plenty we need, am a minimalist at heart, and could only in good conscience register for what we truly need.

She stated I *could* register for items for her home then!!  A second pac n’ play, an additional car seat, clothes, etc.  

Granted, her idea is different than this topic…slightly, as it would be a blatant ‘lie’ to register for gifts for a shower in my honor, that she and I would know are going to her, vs. a shower in her honor, etc.  My reaction is kind of the same; I do not really agree with the idea.  If grandma wants to watch baby at her house, or keep baby over night, or drive baby around, then grandma has to figure out a way to make that happen.  I would not put it upon her, or anyone.  And, if/when we needed a babysitter, our house and one of our cars (equipped with car seat) is always available, or we would supply you with enough things to get you thru a few hours, or whatever.


Post # 19
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I think its sweet as long as someone else planned it for them, my mother would love one! she is getting very grandbaby broody (a couple of her friends have just became grand mothers and its making her jealous!)

Post # 20
213 posts
Helper bee

KingsDaughter:  I think it greatly depends on the situation.  My aunt retired from work when her grandson was born in order to serve as the full-time daycare for the baby while mom continued to work.  In that case I think a grandma shower is very appropriate.  In my case, where both sets of grandparents live far away it’s a bit more gray.  This wil be MILs first grandchild, so while she won’t be childcare, we will try to visit often and if she had a few things like a pack ‘n play, that’d be pretty great.  For my mom, however this will be her 8th grandchild and in that case it would definitely not be appropriate.

Post # 21
1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I wouldn’t have a problem with someone else hosting a baby shower for a grandparent, if it was thrown in good taste.  I mean I think something small with close friends/family is adorable, but I don’t think it should be on the same scale as a first time mum to be.

Post # 22
2467 posts
Buzzing bee

Hopingtobeagrandmasoon here! I put my 2 WONDERFUL DILs first, but after their showers, I’d give myself a light hearted shower, inviting friends who already ARE grandmas and could give me useful advice.

AND, as long as I knew that we weren’t dealing with Diva-Mamas, I’d throw the same kind of shower for some of my friends. 

(I have the BEST DILs n the World!)

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