(Closed) Grandma threatening not to come to wedding :(

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Oh boy…it is never advisable to try and out someone on a lie they’ve told…it only discredits you and makes things worse…I understand you want your Grandma there, but I don’t negotiate with terrorists, even if they are 92 year old ladies with hair like cotton and an amazing peanut brittle recipe…call her on her bluff, and simply say how sad you are that these family issues have become something that will keep her from attending the wedding, but the guest list is set…I bet she folds and if not, her loss.

Post # 5
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553 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@minniemluv:  It depends, does your dad agree with you? Maybe you, your dad and your grandmother can sit down together and discuss it. For your sake, you need back up support from your family and do make sure you have it on lock before you bring anything up. Be prepared for her to still insist your uncle be invited..afterall, she’s his mother. I am in a “uncle behaving badly” situation myself and was surprised that my grandmother kind of chooses to turn a blind eye to things because she just can’t bring herself to be angry at her own son, no matter how crappy he treats her or the family. If she’s really unwilling to budge then just invite him because it’d be worse to not have her there than to have him there. He’ll probably be sorry he came since no one will want to have much to do with him. I think your uncle’s offense is about the most trifling thing I’ve ever heard though..sorry ’bout the drama 🙁

Post # 6
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2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

well if he sued and there are court documents, then you (or your dad) can prove that K. sued. i know it would be harsh to be so blunt with your grandma but it is an option. 

Post # 7
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1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Nona99:  “simply say how sad you are that these family issues have become something that will keep her from attending the wedding, but the guest list is set”  This, plus everything you said.

When you’re telling her how much you’d like her to be there throw in that your son was looking forward to meeting his great-granny for the first time.  And that you’re very sad that she is CHOOSING not to come.  She is trying to guilt you into her way, so throw some of that back at her (in a very polite, sweet way of course).

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