(Closed) Grandma wants to go dress shopping

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee

Don’t allow her to control you. If you don’t want her going along, you don’t have to have her there. Especially since you said she doesn’t have anything nice to say. Someone like that has no business going. If ahe holds a grudge because of it, that is not your fault that she’s a mean person. You don’t need that negativity so do your best to ignore her and let her comments roll off and not bother you.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

You don’t need negative people around when you’re picking out your dress, grandma or not. Is she your maternal grandmother? Maybe your mom could have a talk with her, or even you yourself. My mom says not so nice things sometimes without realizing she’s hurting my feelings so I flat out told her if she was going to go dress shopping with me I didn’t want to spend the day feeling like she thought I was fat or something. I told her to judge the dress, not me. It went over well and we actually had a good time and found a dress I love.

If you don’t want do that, I would make something up and tell her the bridal salon said you can only have a certain amount of people come with you and that you already promised your sisters/mom/FMIL they could come and so there is no room for her…ha ha. I am evil, though.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

Just because she has everyone else scared of her doesn’t mean that you have to be. Stand up for yourself. Don’t accept her bribes. Hopefully your fiance and his family are supportive of you in staying away from her negativity. Enlist his family for help in avoiding her antics. She’s the one who looks like a childish fool, not you.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you don’t want her there then you certainly don’t have to invite her – her snarky comments are way out of line.  BUT if it’s going to cause a lot of drama I might just invite her to one appointment.  Who knows, it might actually work out really well.  Sometimes honest opinions are good – I know I’d want to be told if I did not look good in a dress.  And if she’s too mean, just say “Grandma, that was really hurtful!”  I bet if she’s called out on it she’ll be embarrassed and stop.  Also, I’ve been to some places that had really rude and pushy consultants and having a no-filter, blunt person to put the consultant in her place would have been nice.

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