(Closed) Grandmother’s Wedding Dress versus Picky Fiance

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
Member
6893 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@summyxo: It’s usually my opinion that the dress is about the bride as she is the one wearing it.

Post # 4
Member
3758 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@AmeliaBedelia:agreed

I think you should wear it if you love it πŸ™‚

Post # 5
Member
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Trust yourself πŸ™‚

It will be fabulous!

He is marrying you not the dress !

Post # 6
Member
5011 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@summyxo: I think it sounds beautiful and I’d love to be able to fit into my grandma’s dress.

Post # 7
Member
1652 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Unless you also get veto power over what he wears (I suspect this is not the case), I say wear what you want.  I also say that unless your Fiance is Randy from Say Yes to the Dress, he should refrain from opining on bridal fashion and stick to what he knows.

Post # 9
Member
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

To add to what PP’s have said…

He also has not seen YOU in the dress yet.  Each person looks different, even if it’s the same dress.  I say wear it.  He may not even notice after you make it yours with alterations, etc πŸ™‚

Post # 10
Member
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Try it on and see if you like it before you invest in the alterations and make it a big issue. If you do like it on, explain to him how much it means to you to honor your grandmother by wearing it and how important it is.  Pick your battles. 

You can let him have veto over many other things–but I think if you explain how important this is to you, he should understand.  My Fiance and I have a rule that either of us can veto NO, but if something he hated were SUPER important to me or vice versa, we would just let it go. 

Post # 11
Member
875 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I want to see a picture! But I would love to wear my grandmothers wedding dress, it was so adorable. Too bad it’s been long gone…

Post # 12
Member
4024 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@AmeliaBedelia:Agree!

If you love the dress, and its what you invisioned yourself in, wear it! Tell him that you are going to surprise him with a dress and don’t want him to see it or know what it is until the wedding day. Then do what you want with it. I am sure he will think you look amazing and love your dress on your wedding day no matter what.

Post # 13
Member
2161 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would try it on before deciding if it’s a battle you want to fight.   πŸ™‚

Post # 14
Member
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would also consider the option of purchasing a more modern dress for the reception and wearing your grandmother’s dress for the ceremony. In the end I agree w/PP and say wear what you want!! πŸ™‚

Post # 15
Member
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think that this should be the dress you want to wear. In My Humble Opinion the groom does not get a say in the dress. As for what PP said I absolutely agree that you should try it on and make sure it is definitely what YOU want!

Post # 16
Member
2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

First, I would try on the dress. You may love it looking at it, but a lot changes when you actually put on the dress. I never would have gone for the dress I ended up buying before I tried it on. Then, if you truly do love it, I say wear it. If you’re wearing the dress, you should get to pick it!

The topic ‘Grandmother’s Wedding Dress versus Picky Fiance’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors