Post # 1
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Bumble bee
My Grandmother is trying to talk me out of my dress!!!!! She doesn’t hate it but she hates that there is no bling on it. I’ve always wanted bling but once I tried dresses on I fell in love with one that had no bling what so ever. I know its not what I wanted but it is what I love! She keeps trying to get me to buy another one or change it, everytime I see her she brings up the dress. I try to tell her to stop but she has always been into fashion and once she gets an idea about something you can’t get her stop 🙁 We’ve always been really close and generally agree on things but she just cannot get over this. Ugh any advice on how to nicely tell her to shut her trap and stay away from the bedazzler????
Here is my gorgeous dress, too pretty to change, right?
Post # 3
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Helper bee
Just tell her youre thinking about it and maybe she’ll stop talking about it for a few weeks, if that doesn’t work redirect her by asking for her opinion on things like jewellery, shoes, veil etc then hopefully she be too busy thinking about something else. I love your dress it looks so nice
Post # 4
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Newbee
I think you need to ignore what she’s saying to you and tell her straight that this is the dress you love,and its what you want. The fact that you knew what you wanted but when then when you tried on others you realised actually this is the type of dress that I really like says you should stick with it. You don’t want dress regret. Good luck 🙂
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
@alyssaC: I think it’s cute that your grandma is into bling, but it’s your dress and you should stand firm with your look. (In a nice way of course) what are you planning to do about jewelery? Maybe you could make up for the lack of bling in that area?
ETA your dress is amazing!!
Post # 6
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Busy bee
that dress would not look right with bling-the ruffles are enough goin on already…
Post # 7
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Helper bee
Get some blingy shoes and hair accessories and a blingy purse and maybe when she sees you all done up she will be okay with it
Post # 8
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Helper bee
I would tell her straight up you’ve thought about it, and decided against the bling because you love the dress as is. Then I’d ask her for advice on something else, ideally something you don’t have a really strong opinion about, to sidetrack her from the dress issue and make her feel important.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
If you remove the flower, you could probably add a jewelled belt!
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
Do sparkly earrings or/and a bracelet!
Don’t let anyone (even if it is grandma) push you into changing your vision. Everybody has an opinion. You can’t listen to them all (mine included! ;)).
You will look fabulous no matter what
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
@Birdi: Yeah that was my idea, I even invited her to pick out my accessories with me because I would like some bling elsewhere and she does have great taste. She just cannot get over my dress 🙁
@CocoLoco523: I will not change for anyone 🙂 It’s just hard because we are so close and talk about everything but now all our conversations get turned to my dress…
@peonyinparis: I thought about that at first but I really love the flower so I’m not going to take it off, she even offered to buy me a belt but I just don’t think it will look right to me.
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
@alyssaC: she will once you’re done up. I’m sure you’ll take her breath away!
Post # 13
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Honey bee
You kindly and gently tell her it’s your wedding and your dress. Unless she’s paying for it, she doesn’t get to choose.
Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
@alyssaC: stick with what your like, you only get one day :).
Post # 15
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Helper bee
I think it’s beautiful! I wouldn’t change it at all, and I think the idea of adding some bling jewels will be great. Have you told your grandmother that you normally love bling but it was this dress and you saw it and it was just so perfect? I’d try to make sure she knows you agree with her, and it’s this dress not dresses without bling that you love.
