Post # 1
I just fund out last week that my grandfather has a very aggressive and cancerous tumor on his lung. He has smoked all of his life so I guess I am not completely surprised but it still stinks. It is so close to his heart that they cannot operate and are going to try radiation and chemotherapy. They gave him some pretty grim odds. Since they diagnosis it seems like I am watching him wither away to nothing. I now it is only a week but every time I see him he looks thinner and more frail. I am going to be heartbroken because I was raised by my grandparents and that is like watching my father die. In fact he was going to walk me down the aisle but now I am not sure if he is going to make it to the wedding or be strong enough when he gets there. If that is the case, I will be walking myself down the aisle most likely….there is just no replacement for gramps. I have so many great memories with this man. My fiance is completely supportive and understanding of course. I love my fiance but he totally gets it that my grandpa is officially the first man I ever gave my heart to 🙂
Post # 4
I am very sorry that you are going through this. But I can totally relate. My fiances mother passed away exactly a year ago tomorrow. We tried to get married as soon as we found out that she had stage 4 GI cancer. But we didnt know how little time we had.
She will not be there when we finally take the leap. And so my suggestion to you is to hire a justice of the peace and get married NOW. I dont know if you are having a big church wedding or anything. But again, based on my experience, having the person you love with you is more important.
If I could do it all over again, we would have gotten married in the hospital with her. Big church wedding could come later. But at least we knew she was there and gave us our blessing.
Whatever you decide, do it strongly.
Post # 5
I am so sorry to hear this. I lost my grandfather to Cancer last June and it was very hard, but with the love and support of family and friends it was easier. Don’t be afraid to lean on them for support. Remember to cherish each and every day with him and tell him you love him.
Post # 6
I am so sorry to hear this 🙁 It really is the worst feeling in the world. And such bad timing.
My grandpa has cancer too. Hes been strong and fighting for years but were at the end of the tunnel. His chemo has made him weak and now theres an infection in his blood which he has no immune system to fight. And he is so ready to go.
He was going to walk me down the aisle for my wedding in August as well.
Sending you so much love darling.
Post # 7
Thank you ladies. Just came back from visiting my venue and realized there is no way he will be able to walk me down the aisle. The stairs are way too steep that lead to our ceremony sight so I would love to find another way to incorporate him in the ceremony if he is up to it. I am currently cherishing every last moment I have with him. It sounds like I am not going through this type of loss alone and that makes me feel a little better.