Post # 1
We’re doing these crazy DIY fan programs which Fiance has almost finished designing. Then I woke up in the middle of the night last night (this is becoming common) having a minor panic attack that we didn’t list grandparents in the program.
Do we have to list grandparents? We’re kind of running out of room, but if it’s crucial, I suppose we could squeeze it in. My mom said it’s fine if we don’t, but she’s being super passive aggressive lately so I don’t know if she means it or not, sigh.
Post # 3
i don’t think it’s mandatory…i think the most important thing is that you do what you want!
i haven’t even thought about this, but we will probably have a “special guests” type section and living grandparents will be included their. those who are no longer with us will have photopraphs displayed on the welcome/guestbook table.
Post # 4
We didnt. I think it depends on how close you are with your grandparents.
Post # 5
It is not mandatory but we are including my grandfather and FH’s father since they have both passed away. We think it is a nice way to honor their memory.
Post # 6
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I don’t think you have to. We probably won’t, just for lack of room!
Post # 7
I usually see programs with grandparents listed, but if you can’t fit them in perhaps you could put them in the Thank you section or something……
Post # 8
Thanks for the responses so far. I’m talking about grandparents that are alive. I have three grandparents and Fiance has one. FI’s grandmother is also a reader for the ceremony, so she is already listed. So that sort of adds to the confusion.
We do have a “thank you” section which speaks to “family” but does not name our grandparents directly.
Post # 9
I am wrestling with this exact same issue tonight! I don’t think it’s mandatory to list grandparents, but if they are going to be walked down the aisle and formally seated before the parents are seated, it would probably be helpful to list them in the program so the guests would know who they were.
I have one living grandmother (coming to wedding), one living grandfather (unable to come because of frail health), one deceased grandmother, and one deceased grandfather. Fiance has two deceased grandmothers (both died when he was young), a deceased grandfather who died when FI’s own father was just 17, and a grandfather that FI’s mother stopped speaking to 30 years ago and is now presumed to have passed away (yikes).
We’re going to list my living grandmother with the parents in the program, and then mention all but the disowned grandfather (awkward, I know) in the “thank you” section in the back. It will probably go something like this: “In our thoughts today are the bride’s grandfather, NAME, who was unable to travel to WEDDING CITY, and the grandparents of the bride and groom who are no longer with us, but whose memories will always touch our lives: NAME, NAME, NAME, NAME, NAME.”
It gets dicey because Fiance never met his dad’s dad, so how could his memory touch his life? But I was super close to my two grandparents who have passed away, and it is important to me that we put something in there to express that.