- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I’ve been lurking on this site for awhile, and I’ve finally registered because I’m feeling so alone in the planning process. Our wedding is April 13th, and we’ve been finalizing the RSVPs. We invited 107 people – so far we have 43 coming, but I am not anticipating more than 53 coming, tops. The wedding will be in my hometown, which unfortunately, is a long flight or drive for nearly all of our guests. There was really no other central location that would have worked. I recognize that it’s inconvenient but can’t help but feel disappointed.
To make it worse, I found out this weekend that my grandparents and extended family on my mom’s side won’t be coming. My mother hasn’t been on speaking terms with them for years, although I have maintained a relationship. I’m really hurt by their decision not to come. My grandmother has said its because they don’t want my mother to “go wacko” if they show up.
My mother has little control over her emotions, and I know her worst fear is being responsible, or guilty, and she will make things very unpleasant for everyone around her so that she can feel justified. I feel like I can’t take this to her because she will get angry with me for bringing it up, and accuse me of trying to stir drama, as she has in the past.