Post # 1
So I just went on-line to pay off our officiant and was a little surprised to see a gratuity option come up. It got me thinking. What’s the norm with wedding vendors and gratuity? What vendors are you tipping? What vendors aren’t you tipping? What percentage is the norm? I don’t want to be a cheap asshole but I cetrainly didn’t budget for an extra 10-20% all of my vendors! Did I screw up?
Post # 2
This is probably an unpopular opinion… But I believe there are some things you should tip for i.e. waiters/waitresses; but weddding vendors can choose their own prices, so I don’t see the need to tip. Possibly offer to tip after the service if you feel they did an incredible job, otherwise I don’t think tipping is a requirement for a person who decides their own prices.
Post # 3
- Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada
Tipping in advance is nonsense. The “rule” is that you only tip people who don’t own the business, so a photographers helper, or a caterer’s serving staff, but not the catering company as a whole. I would be handing these tips over as Cash only, and DEFINITELY not doing it until the actual day.
Post # 4
Some vendors include tip in their pricing. Our bartender fees and catering fees had the tip included in the price.
Post # 5
When we got married we hardly knew anyone that had planned and paid for their own wedding so we didn’t realize anyone tipped their venues, etc. That said, we didn’t tip any of our vendors. Our venue included an 18% gratuity.
Post # 6
My wedding was more like an elopement so I did not have to deal with as many details and vendors. I paid for a package through a small Inn and they paid for the officiant, flowers, cake, photography, etc. I did tip the officiant after the ceremony because she was so lovely to work with. Gratuity for the chef who cooked us a private dinner was included in the price..we gave him a little extra because he was a gem. The Inn’s owner did the photos so I did not tip him.
I would not tip anyone until the actual day so you can tip them appropriately. I also think some people tip more vendors than they should. I am curious to see what others think!
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2021 - City, State
Tipping also depends where you are in the world.
Its not common to tip except for excellent service in the U.K. So I won’t be tipping any of my vendors, however some will get gifts as a thanks and I’ve invited the women I got my dress from to the wedding (she saved me $400!! And is coming to “dress the bride” and is taking a day off to do so to save me money)
Post # 8
You tip anyone who does not own their own business/set their own prices.
So if your photog is ‘self employed’- no tip. But if your videographer is from a larger company an ’employee’- then they get tipped.
Post # 9
ummm…are they kidding?
I mean…maybe my ignorance is due to the fact that I come from a country that yu don’t tip unless there is exceptional service, however this really hit a spot for me! it is a well-known fact that wedding vendors have inflated prices due to the occassion, so I would in no way feel obligated tot ip under these circumstances!
Post # 10
I plan on tipping our harpist and our caricature artist. The photographer owns his business, the catering company doesn’t allow tipping. I thought about tipping the cake person but we are already paying a $60 delivery charge. I wouldn’t have thought about tipping the officiant. I’m not sure about the florist, still debating that. Interested in what others are doing/did.
Post # 11
We will not be tipping anyone but hair and makeup. All my vendors work for themselves and set their own prices.
Post # 12
I gotta double check our contracts and invoices… but off the top of my head I think we will be tiping only the 2 serving staff that the BBQ catering company provides and the salon staff that we are going to in the morning.. maybe the tent/tables/chairs delivery person, Washroom delivery person all those people are employees of a company and dont set their prices.. we are not tipping the catering company itself, the officiant, photographer, flower vendor.
Post # 13
Our food and beverage included tax and a 20% gratuity. I expected that. Restaurants around here often add 18% gratuity automatically for bigger parties. Not one of my vendors is a “company”. They are all independent contractors. Jessica Roman Photo.. and Jessica Roman is taking my pics. Mike Regan DJ Service… Mike Regan is my DJ and so on and so forth. I thought $600 was high for a 20 min ceremony to begin with, suggesting a $60+ dollar tip up front seemed so odd to me! Glad to hear this is the exception and not the norm!