(Closed) Gratuity for vendors

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Post # 3
430 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am commenting to find out other’s thoughts as well.  I am very much in the same boat as you!

Post # 4
8453 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’ve read that if they DJ/Photographer owns their own company, you should leave a good review instead of a monetary tip (although one is always appreciated), otherwise I think it’s about 20%.  I’m spending about $1k for gratuities, it’s just part of the wedding cost like tax, so be sure to factor it in.

Post # 5
955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m probably a horrible human being, but I didn’t tip my vendors.  They were all solo practioners….the florist, the DJ….(I always thought you didn’t *need* to tip a business owner, correct me if I’m wrong though!)


All the food/cake/beer/wine was served by the venue (they included gratutity in the cost.)



Post # 8
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m curious too. . .

Post # 9
755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m curious as well!

Do you tip the florist, photographer, dj, baker?

Our caterer includes a 21% gratuity charge? Do you tip on top of that?

Post # 10
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I tipped my venue because it was a mandatory 18% gratuity.  My photographer, DJ and baker were all independent owner run businesses, which usually means a tip is not required. 

Post # 11
1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My venue which also provides the bar and catering automatically charges 18% gratuity so I’m not tipping the caterers, bartender, or baker ( especially since the bartender will still get tips from our guests ) my FIs aunt is doing the flowers so no tip needed there, but I’m still not sure how much to tip the dj and photographer.. I might wait to see my pics before I tip, is that terrible?

Post # 12
734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think the rule is that you don’t have to tip business owners like JaneyDcat: said. At least that’s what I have heard.

If its someone employed by someone else (and only an hourly wage from their employer). If its a business owner I don’t think you have to.

For example, I don’t believe I have to tip my photographer or planner because they are self-employed. However, if I have a DJ come who works for a company then I would. Some DJs are self-employed though.


I honestly don’t know much about it, that is just what I have heard. =) But you’re right, 20% adds up quick when you’re paying hundreds or thousands for someone!!!

Post # 13
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have briefly thought about this.  And dreaded thinking about it more.  My venue/caterer has a service charge built in, so I shouldn’t tip on top, right?  And everyone else I’m using is the owner of their business, although I’ve never ever heard that it means you don’t have to tip them.  Sounds good to me though!  I plan on tipping my hair and makeup people.  IDK about anyone else though.  It’s tooooo much for me!  :/

Post # 14
1609 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

BEFORE you sign contracts clarify, but


1.  In my state, anything labeled service MUST go to servers.  No need to tip if venue charges gratuity or service.

2. If the venue does not charge service or venue, only tip on food and liquor, NOT anything for rentals.

3.  You do not have to tip owners of businesses — they set price. 

4.  I have never heard of tipping baker.  Florist, not 15-21. 

Post # 15
12248 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think the only people you have to tip are the employees of other people, right? So atleast that’s not everyone!

Post # 16
943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We tipped our vendors:

reverend-$100 approx 28.5%

hair/makeup 25% (approx $150, I paid for my cousin’s and a bm’s hair/makeup too)

band 9 piece (meal included for each band member at reduced vendor rate of $35/ea plus $50 per member clash plus $100 for bandleader) cost total tip $865

photog: $350

bridal attendant $100 (amount set by venue)

maitre d’-$800 (venue suggested $3-$5pp, we had 160 guests)

we had DIY centerpieces so no florist tip, we just tipped the delivery guy for bp flower delivery $50

edit, forgot photo booth operator-$150

approx total tips: $2565

I also wrote a cute thank you card to each to give the gratuity in so we didn’t just hand a wad of cash over, except only one card for the bandleader, not each band member.

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