Post # 1
My FI and I are getting married in November in Miami.
We’re having our ceremony in a Catholic church but will be having our daytime reception on a cruise ship, so we’d like to keep it more casual.
Our groomsmen will be wearing purple shirts with gray suits, but I really like the idea of having them wear gray vests and gray pants (no jacket) instead of a full “suit”. My FI is not convinced because he says the guys will be self conscious on their developing guts.
I can see where he’s coming from, but I think a nicely tailored vest might even be more flattering. Thoughts?
Post # 3
A jacket won’t hide the gut 🙂
I like the idea of vests, but perhaps your fiance should ask the guys what they’re comfortable with. Honestly, I think the vests would look better- jackets make men look more bulky and I’m guessing Miami is hot.
Post # 4
I think the vests would work well. I would take the guys out and have them try on a vest and also a jacket and see what works best. Maybe take the guy with biggest “gut”. My FI has what I call a budha belly. He is working on getting rid of it, but I am having him wear a full tux. He looks awesome in it. I would not like to see him in just a vest. You could have the guys wear a jacket for the ceremony and then just a vest for the reception. I don’t think the right cut of jacket makes a guy look bulky.
Post # 5
that’s what i’m planning to do with my groomsmen. i think it’ll go nicely with the bridesmaids since my bridesmaids will be wearing short dresses.
Post # 6
I love the vest look – I was entertaining the idea of our fellas just having vests too!
Post # 7
We did the vests only look for the groomsmen and it looked great (biased, I know.) Still, I think you have to try and match your venue. They would have looked ridiculous in full suits/tuxedos because we got married in a giant field.
Post # 8
Personally I’m not a fan of the vests look. Combining that with the fact that it seems your FI would prefer them in jackets and a vest won’t hide any gut that they may be self-conscious of – I think you ought to go with jackets. They can always (and I’m sure would) remove the jackets for the more casual reception.
Post # 9
You’ve all been a big help.
I’ll definitely see what the guys like best and see what looks best on them. I’m just crossing my fingers hoping they’ll pick what I hope they pick. lol
It’s just killing me that my FI said he’ll go with the guys (without me) and I should just trust his judgement…. which I do… but it’s hard to let goooo.
Post # 10
Yeah, I agree about the venue. Since we’re having an early morning wedding following by the reception on a cruise ship, I definitely think the vest will work better, but again, I’ll let them decide.
Do you happen to have any pics of your guys?
Post # 11
We love the idea of vests without jackets, but are having a hard time finding them, we want to do khaki, can you rent these or will the groomsmen have to purchase them.
Post # 12
@jwortham: Sorry for the delayed reply. I hadn’t been on the Wedding bee since about a month before my wedding.
We didn’t end up doing the vest thing because our groomsmen were being a bit difficult and they ended up finding a gray suit they all liked so I didn’t push it any longer.
We did look around alot though and Burlington, Macys, and Mens Warehouse had a few but none had a wonderful selection. Mens Warehouse told us they only rent out those colored vests, which is not what we were looking for at all.
I think they would probably have to purchase suit vests no matter where they go. But it’s a great look I must say.
Hope this helps! Congrats and best of luck!