(Closed) Great Days Make Me Anxious!!

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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767 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

So I couldn’t find it, but recently someone posted on a waiting post about the stages of waiting. It was pretty accurate, with one of them being upset and emotional over the fact that you’re not engaged yet. I normally get more annoyed than sad, but sometimes recently I’ve thought that maybe this is it- he’s going to propose, and than had the let down that he isn’t. Or he’ll be on the computer “working on private stuff” (his timeline is running out soon) and weeks later nothing has come to fruition. 

I don’t know any really practical advice. Obviously it would be easier to live in the moment and just enjoy the good times you have, but if you could just flip a switch and do that, I’m sure you would. Hopefully your guy is working on it. If he keep shortening his timeline, then it seems like it’s something he’s at least thinking about and is hopefully researching and making a purchase for!

Post # 5
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935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

LOL! I’m glad the “Waiting Cycle” is something the Bee’s seem to sympathize with.  Maybe I’ll put it in it’s own thread for reference.

Ah, the etnernal question of how to get past these feelings. I wish they would just go away. But in most cases you have to feel them. And question them. And sometimes cry, then they’ll let go for awhile. Only to return again, per the cycle 🙂

Besides that, the jury is out on whether to discuss with your Boyfriend or Best Friend or not.  Some Bee’s say, Yes! (as long as you haven’t been talking about weddings constantly….) it’s healthy communication to let him know what is going on with you/what you need/why you’re hiding in the bathroom crying, etc. Some say it’s an off-limits topic, or at least don’t bring it up if he says it’s happening within a reasonable timeframe that you both agreed upon. In that case, you’ve gotta just suck it up.

And don’t worry, you’ll be in the next cycle soon…

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