Post # 1
So I went to visit my mom this weekend and got my great grandmothers wedding band from her. Since I’m going to use it as my wedding band I wanted to get it checked out, cleaned, and possibly sized. I knew there are a few diamonds missing, but lets face it..the ring is my great grandmothers, i don’t really expect it to be new and flawless. So anyways, I took it to a jewelry store last night that my friend recommended (she took her grandmothers ring there to get fixed) and I explained that it was my great grandmothers so I am aware its old and worn but wanted to see about it getting fixed and clean. The guy told me its so worn there isn’t much he can do for me. He said he wouldn’t recommend me wearing it everyday and that some of the diamonds are shattered so he wouldn’t even be willing to clean it bc he wouldn’t want to break the diamonds, and that he doesn’t think i should get it re-sized. I was so bummed I wanted to cry 🙁 Of course then I got home and realized I was so discouraged and bummed I didn’t even get to ask him about replacing the diamonds. I’m going to a different jewelry store next, since I would rather find someone that can appreciate the meaning behind the band and that would be willing to help me restore it, rather than someone that didn’t want to be bothered with it. But still..I was pretty bummed about the whole thing. Regardless, I will wear it…its been sitting in my moms jewelry box for the last 20+ years and I plan on wearing it…but i’d prefer to get it restored so i can continue enjoying it for a long time to come and not have to replace the ring in a few years when it isn’t wearable anymore.
Hopefully I have some more luck tonight, but I was just so bummed I thought it might make me feel better to vent.
Post # 3
@hazyleyedbeauty: look for someone who specializes in resotrations. I’m sure there’s something that can be done for you. Perhaps you can have the inside of the band ‘lined’ to give it some more stability? Even if the ring needs to be reconstructed, the gold will be hers, use the diamonds you can, and maintain the essence of the ring. It’s still her ring, it’ll just be made to be worn for another happy marriage, and hopefully more!
Post # 4
@hazyleyedbeauty: I’m so sorry your experience with that jeweler was so disheartening. It sounds like you appreciate the sentimental value of the ring but he didn’t get it. Don’t be discouraged; try again with a different jeweler and find out what options you have. Good luck!
Post # 5
To give you hope; My wedding necklace will be the one that my grandmother wore on her wedding day. The clapse was broke, so we took it into the jewler’s. Ours was wonderful and really wanted to preserve the necklace. He did tell me it would be fradgile, but it is wearable for my wedding day, and I’m very happy.
Dont’ give up. Some will help you!
Post # 6
@hazyleyedbeauty: I had a ring from my grandmother that needed to be fixed, resized etc. and the first three jewelers I took it to told me it wasn’t worth anything and I shouldn’t bother. Clearly, it wasn’t about the cost but the sentimentality. Eventually I did find a jeweler (a small privatley owned shop where he does all the work on site) who recognized that and fixed it up for me. So please keep looking- you WILL find someone who can do something for you!
I’m dealing with a similar problem now with my wedding band (FI’s great grandmothers). My Future Mother-In-Law took it to be cleaned and they refused becasue they were afraid all the diamonds would fall out since it is so old (it’s an eternity band).
Currently, I’m hoping we can find someone to clean and reinforce the ring so I can wear it. If not, I have decided I will use it regardless for the ceremony and maybe buy a new ring as my daily wear, saving great grandma’s for special occasions. So worse comes to worse, you can and should still use it on your wedding day!
Good luck and keep us posted, I would love to see how the ring turns out!
Post # 7
@hazyleyedbeauty: Keep looking until you find a jeweler who understands your wants/needs!
My wedding band is my great-grandmother’s (made for her BY my great-grandfather, who was a jeweler), and it is in great, completely wearable condition!
So I’m sure someone out there can restore it for you!
Post # 8
@hazyleyedbeauty: I don’t really blame him, he didn’t want to ruin a sentimental ring. Maybe you could have the ring deconstructed and use the metal and diamonds to make a new wedding band? Not even sure if it’s possible, but it’s worth asking!
If it can’t be restored in any way, you could always get married with it but have a different band to wear every day?
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Try a jeweler that specializes in restoration, ask local antique shops for recommendations. If you still cannot find help, it may be a good idea to melt it down and create a new piece that can actually be worn and enjoyed. Whether it be a new band or a pendant for a necklace, I’m sure something can be done.
Post # 10
Thanks for your advice ladies!
@Miss Mauverick: @MrsWBS: @beachbride1216: I took the ring to another jeweler who said the ring is obviously worn and well loved but he said there is no such thing as “nothing” that can be done to fix it. He is going to get me a quote to repair the ring as well as a quote to melt it down and rebuild it. He said they can make it look the same and keep all the diamonds that are in good shape, and then just go from there. I should hear from them tomorrow so my fingers are crossed!
@BrandNewBride: I LOVE that the ring was made by your greatgrandfather! That makes it that much more special. I love sentimental stories behind jewelry like that.
@Mill: Sounds exactly like my situation! People seem to thing the cost is more important than the sentimental value! The guy I took the ring to this past time seemed to understand it much more than the first store I went to. I would prefer to add platinum to reinforce the ring, and keep it as is. Melting it down and remaking it is ok I guess…but it wouldn’t be the same in my mind…so hopefully they will be able to figure out a way to make it work. I have 2 more shops I’ve found online that I will take it to if I have to. I have also decided that regardless of if it gets fixed or not I will be wearing it. My mom said i’m the only great grandchild that remembers my greatgrandmother that will wear the ring and she would rather me wear it until it falls apart rather than have it just sitting in a jewelry box like it has been.
Post # 11
I’m glad you stuck with it. Please keep us posted on your progress. It is a wonderful heirloom.