(Closed) GREAT site for CBCers (Childfree by Choice)

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

That whole FAQ was really snarky… I got through about 5 and was over it.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You have no idea what I am… bottom line the whole thing is snarky regardless and YOU said it is a “must read for EVERYONE”

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think the site is great. I didn’t get through all of the FAQ’s (don’t my co-workers know that I have more important things to do than deal with company bullshit when I have reading to do?!) but what I did read, I totally agree with. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It’s kind of bratty.. but I think it’s funny.. and yes truthful. 

Thanks!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I could understand posting this as for CBC people only but to say it’s a must read for everyone… no.  This is supposed to be a community where people help each other and lend support.  Here is one of your FAQ:

 

Why are you people so against fertility treatments?!

Because we find it appalling that people would spend so much money to create a child when the world is full of kids who need parents now! I just find it incredibly selfish to reject all these kids who need to be adopted because  Suzy Q and her dimwitted husband think their own DNA is somehow far superior to someone else’s “rejects”. (Never mind the fact that their own DNA was defective in the first place, rendering them infertile! Natural selection is trying to weed them out of the gene pool so their genes are most certainly NOT superior!)


I just think that would be extremely hurtful to others TTC if they read this… so like I said you guys can post whatever you want as CBC but I don’t think you should tell EVERYONE to read this… it could cause some really hurt feelings.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

@MrsPom:  If you don’t like it move on. There is no need for the attitude and drama. There has been enough of it on this subject already.

OP I thought it was good and pretty funny. I wish more people had an open mind and could see CBCers  side of things

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

@MrsSl82be:  Well, if you were CBC you would think that its right on.


What exactly is the definition of CBC?  I thought it was just people that do not want to have children.  According to your statement though, there’s much more to that definition.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@MrsSl82be I disagree, I also read through it to get another perspective and found it to be extremely rude. I have some friends and family with kids, some without, and some who don’t want any. Darling Husband and I do not have children and were we to decide that children weren’t in our future I would in no way shape or form want to be associated with something as belittling close minded as that. I sent the link to a friend who is CBC and they were even more offended than I was that their views were being misrepresented in this manner.

It is more than possible to advocate for a child free life without putting down those who choose to have children. Most CBCers I know aren’t choosing to not have children because there are no upsides to parenting, they are choosing not to have children because parenthood is not something they want for themselves. Not having children doesn’t make you more insightful or more creative. The term breeder is downright offensive. Actually the entire site comes off as bitter and offensive, even if it’s meant to be tongue in cheek which it doesn’t appear to be.

And last time I checked, countering one snarky remark with another results in TWO rude people.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Putting a disclaimer that says “I realize some of these terms are mean” doesn’t make me want to support the site. I have to believe there are better sites out there for the child free community.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper

i haven’t read it yet (I will), but I wanted to say that the FAQ that Pom227 posted is yes a little “bratty” as another PP stated, but I didn’t find it bad.  but maybe that is because if I am not successful at conceiving a child naturally (as I hope to be, i am not yet TTC), i would consider adoption as equally as I would consider fertility treatments and that comment gives me something to think about! 

 

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