Post # 1
My Fiance and I are an inter-faith couple and will be getting married by a catholic priest. To incorporate my FI’s faith, we’ve gotten permission from the priest to have a co-officiant. We are going to ask his grand-uncle (who is a protestant minister) to do the honors, as he has married many people in my FI’s family.
Here’s the question: His uncle would have (presumably) been coming to the wedding anyway from Southern California. But since he’s officiating our wedding, should we be paying his travel and lodging expenses?
Thanks for your help!!
Post # 3
I wouldn’t pay for his travel but perhaps for his lodging expenses and a small sentimental gift to say thanks.
Post # 4
My aunt officiated at our wedding. You are right- my aunt would have come anyway also- so we did not pay for her travel expenses i.e. flight, however we did pay for the hotel that she and her husband stayed in. As she would not accept her normal “fee”, we also purchased a moderatly priced ($200) gift for her.
Post # 5
My very good friend who is an ordained minister is going to marry us. She would be coming anyway, but in lieu of a fee we’re going to pay her plane fair and tip her of course.
Post # 6
We’re in a similar situation.. we just asked what he preferred. He said if anything, to make a donation to a charity of his choice and not tell him we did. We’re trying to decide if we should pay for hotel/give him something too, even though he asked us not to.