(Closed) Great Uncle Co-officiating our wedding… Do we need to pay travel expenses?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I wouldn’t pay for his travel but perhaps for his lodging expenses and a small sentimental gift to say thanks. 

Post # 4
7819 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

My aunt officiated at our wedding.  You are right- my aunt would have come anyway also- so we did not pay for her travel expenses i.e. flight, however we did pay for the hotel that she and her husband stayed in.  As she would not accept her normal “fee”, we also purchased a moderatly priced ($200) gift for her.

Post # 5
548 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

My very good friend who is an ordained minister is going to marry us.  She would be coming anyway, but in lieu of a fee we’re going to pay her plane fair and tip her of course.

Post # 6
1029 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re in a similar situation.. we just asked what he preferred. He said if anything, to make a donation to a charity of his choice and not tell him we did. We’re trying to decide if we should pay for hotel/give him something too, even though he asked us not to.

The topic ‘Great Uncle Co-officiating our wedding… Do we need to pay travel expenses?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors