Post # 1
Whats the best wedding-related advice you’ve gotten?
I recently had a coworker tell me “You will be beautiful and it will be wonderful, and even if it isn’t, everyone will tell you it is.”
I found that really funny, but for some reason it also hit home with me. Even if something is a little off, no one is going to tell me to my face (hopefully). It kind of took the edge off the planning anxiety I’ve been having. We’ll jsut see how long that lasts.
Post # 3
I don’t know if it was the best but its was pretty great!
- Be sure to have a date night the week before the wedding.
- Try to have an all girls weekend away, maybe with your Maid/Matron of Honor or sister or best friend, etc… On that weekend turn off cell phones, computers, and enjoy the moment.
There are or rather were a ton more but those are the two things that I was sure to do and I did them. They were so important and I loved every minute of them.
Post # 4
1. “a wedding is not the time to prove a point.” someone on the ‘bee (sorry can’t remember who) wrote that. take it how you want, but i thought that was great.
2. “things will go wrong. accept them and move on, happily.”
3. this is my own advice (if i may):
DIY only if it’s something you absolutely want to learn and will have time to do. BIY if you don’t have the time to do and/or don’t want to, but have the resources to pay someone to do it. ACCEPT (and learn to let go of) the things you can’t/don’t want to do and don’t have money to pay someone else to do it for you.
Post # 5
There are only things that go well and things that will make good stories in a few years.
Post # 6
Definitely “something will go wrong…something always goes wrong. As long as you know that and accept it and know there’s nothing you can do to stop it, you’ll be fine”.
Post # 7
Haven’t gotten any advice because I’m not married or engaged yet! But I have given some advice that for some reason people have said is good. My friend was getting married and she was talking to me at the rehearsal dinner about being not know where to look when walking down the aisle and being worried about that part. I told her what just made sense to me but she told me it was the best advice she had been given (no idea why!)
When walking down the aisle, look at the man you’re marrying. Look into his eyes and capture that moment so you can remember it forever. Nobody is else is going to really remember or care if you look at them when you are walking down the aisle and you won’t remember looking at them either. But you and your husband will remember and cherish that special moment forever. It is truly the beginning of your new lives together.
Post # 8
The best advice I heard:
“No one cares as much about your wedding as you!”
I heard it really early on and it set me up to not have any expectations from any body. When you don’t have any expectations you can’t be disappointed when people ‘let you down’.
And it resulted in me being very appreciative of every little thing everyone did for me and made me feel really loved!
Post # 9
1. Pick what you like and move on (regarding detail indecision)
2. Don’t be concerned with anyone on the wedding day except you and your husband (regarding family stress & misc drama) – this was SO freeing and wonderful!
3. If it doesn’t happen exactly the way you planned it, the only one that will really know is you (regarding how to just brush off ‘mistakes’)
Post # 10
Honestly? Nothing really went wrong with our wedding day. It was as smooth as a baby’s bottom.
What I made sure we did was to step back and take it all in. Everyone says it goes by quickly…and they sure are right. You wait your entire life to meet the right man, you wait for the proposal, you wait for the wedding day, you plan, then it’s here and in the blink of an eye, it’s over.
- During our ceremony, I made sure to briefly look out to see our guests who were watching us. It was so awesome to see the faces of our loved ones.
- I stepped back off the dance floor at one point and was thrilled to look around and find it (the dance floor) completely packed!
- Have fun and let loose.
Post # 11
Best Advice I got was from a newlywed friend of mine… She told me that no matter how much I try to micro manage things, something will ultimatly stray from the plan. But don’t sweat it, because at the end of the day he and I will still be married. And that it the important thing.
Post # 12
Just bumping this because I loved reading advice from the bees who know best and would love to hear more!
Post # 13
Got married in December…I think the best advice I can give is this: At the end of the day, it IS about you (of course and your FI). So this is the one time you can do what you want, how you want, why you want. If you want to swing from the chandeliers in a hot pink tutu, you can. If you want cupcakes as favors, go for it (I did and everyone LOVED them). No one will remember the things that went wrong, they will only remember how in love you were and how wonderful it was to be part of a very special day in your life. And right before the vows – look out there at all the people who spent $, took time off from work and got dressed up to see you. And then look at your soon to be husband who is standing up there with you. And enjoy every single moment of saying those vows!
Post # 14
This is a GREAT post! Keep ’em coming for those of us in crisis!!
Post # 15
Don’t worry about the weather on your wedding day because you will be so busy and happy, you won’t even notice if it rains.