(Closed) Greeting guests before ceremony?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

It’s very non-traditional, some people might be surprised, but I think it’s nice. Are you doing a cocktail hour? You could do the same thing as people come into the cocktail hour vs the ceremony. People might feel weird congratulating you before you actually get married, but I think as long as you thank them for coming you’ll be fine!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

That sounds really cool – obviously it’s nontraditional but for a small unconventional wedding I think it can be really nice. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

mimi472:  It sounds like it would work well with your location and everything then too. Your photographer should be able to get some nice shots of your guests arriving as well.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

I actually think this could backfire. What if Great Aunt Bertha wants to talk your ear off for a half hour and then nobody else gets to say hi, or worse, she makes you late for the ceremony?

If you’re not worried about that, I do think it sounds like a nice idea. I don’t think anyone would be thrown by it.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper

We had a little reception for guests before the ceremony, but didn’t greet guests ourselves until the cocktail hour. There’s no reason you can’t, though. Your choice! 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

marriedtopizza:  THis could happen in a receiving line or table visits anyways. OP, I’m sure you’ll be fine, but it might be a good idea to master the art of ‘wow I’d love to hear more, lets chat after!’ and move on to the next guest haha.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Don’t see why it wouldn’t work. Darling Husband and I did first look photos, then cocktail hour where we greeted everyone and mingled, and then we walked down the isle together. However, I did have a cockatil dress for the cocktail hour, because I still wanted the ooh’s and ah’s when everyone saw me in my dress for the first time 🙂 It was all in one location and went perfectly. I think it was smoother then having a receiving line since everyone didn’t have to stand in line, but was greeted as they walked in. No one had an issue with congratulating us on our weeding an hour before we said “I do!”.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

mimi472:  My cousin did this.  We really loved being greeted by them as we arrived.  My husband and I held our reception meal before our ceremony, so we also greeted everyone.  I think the whole situation becomes more relaxing than if you keep yourselves secluded away.  Go for it!

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Long Island

Darling Husband & I accidentally ended up having a situation like yours at our wedding. Since our bridal/groom suite was so large (half the size of the cocktail hour space, lol) all our guests just started coming up to see us before the ceremony. At the moment, I was a little dazed at having to greet everyone while I thought I would be just spending that time with just our families– HOWEVER, now that I look back, I’m so so thankful that I had that time to have at least a few seconds with everyone that morning because during cocktail hour and the reception we mingled and definitely did NOT get to all our guests. I would have felt terrible if I thought that there were guests who left the wedding who were sad that they didn’t get to say hi.

TLDR: If you guys want to do it, you won’t regret it. 🙂

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