Post # 1
My OH and I are thinking of renting a full dark grey suit for him (the groom) with black or brown shoes. So he’ll wear white shirt + tie + dark grey pants, vest, and jacket.
There will be a couple of groomsmen — to cut costs, we are going to buy them the same shirt, and they’ll just wear their own black pants and black shoes, which they already have. So they won’t have a jacket or vest (just white shirt with tie, and black pants)
Groom and groomsmen will all be wearing the same tie (a dark green, our accent colour) to unify them.
Is this a bad idea? I can’t find pictures of this kind of thing online. Anyone done something similar and have pictures to share?
Post # 2
icytrout : our men wore their own suits, shoes and shirts because Darling Husband had his made and they were never going to match anyway. The rule was “a shade of navy”, white shirt. It looked great with matching ties and pocket squares.
Post # 3
Please don’t let him wear brown shoes with gray.
The men should have jackets; they can wear their own dark suits.
Post # 4
cassandra7 : What’s wrong with brown shoes? Literally every man I have ever seen in a grey suit is wearing brown shoes.
OP, nothing wrong with having the groom wear something different than the groomsmen!
Post # 5
They don’t have to match at all. I’d just have them wear their own suits and ties or borrow jackets.
Post # 6
The groomsmen should wear the same level of formality as the groom; that is more important than whether they “match”.
Post # 7
My husband wore a black tux and all of his men wore their own suits in either grey or blue, looked fine. Some wore brown shoes, some wore black, I think mismatched looks fab!
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn
My groom and groomsmen are wearing dark jeans, boots, same white button shirt, same brown vests (except Fiance is slightly different), same bow ties, and on top of all that my groom is wearing a tan jacket.
I think if your groomsmen at least wore vests it would tie them all together a little more?
Post # 9
Black and gray are shades of the same, cool color and go together smoothly. Brown is warm and earthy and clashes.
Post # 10
claroquesi : I agree with the end result, but would say that the goal is not so much to match the groom, as much as all of the men, groomsmen and groom, should match the formality of the occasion. To me that means suits, jackets at minimum.
Post # 11
I’m not a fan of the shirt and pant look for groomsmen. If the bride is wearing a full on wedding gown, the most formal dress she will wear in her lifetime, and the groom is in a tuxedo or suit, why have the groomsmen show up looking like they have already taken their jaket off at work?
Post # 12
cassandra7 : Actually, you see lots of fashionable men wearing brown shoes with gray these days. Black is still a classic and conservative choice, of course. It’s similar to how women never used to wear nude sandals or pumps with a black dress.
Post # 13
It depends on the shade of grey. Black, brown or oxblood shoes are perfectly fine with a lighter grey suit. Black shoes work better with a dark or charcoal grey suit.