(Closed) Grief related vent, totally NWR

posted 11 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I am so so sorry for your loss.  I can’t imagine the pain you are going through.  I think you are right that you should see a grief counselor.  From my experience it really, really helps talking with someone who has a totally objective viewpoint.  That and your grief counselor will welcome you talking about your pain and your guilt.  They will really help you to move past that.  I have been to a grief counselor so I know what it’s like when you can hardly bare to mention the persons name.  PM me if you want some more info.

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

i second the therapist / counseling.. i think that just having an open forum to talk as long as you want about it will help. you’ll probably uncover a few things that you didn’t realize you felt/thought, which might help you down the road to recovery. We are with you – good luck! It is such a tragedy, but your family can rebuild for sure.

Post # 34
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300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Wow! So sorry for your loss. The death of a loved one is always hard, but it’s especially hard when it was completely unexpected and came  after a season of bitterness and hard feelings. I hope you find a way for you to deal with your grief. I know that’s easier said than done.

Post # 35
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6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Hey, amandopolis, I just want to chime in with my support.  I’m so sorry for your loss, and the entire circumstances, and I hope you can find a way to work through your grief.  Is it possible to leave Norah with a friend or relative on those nights the grief group meets?  I really hope you can find an outlet for your feelings.  In the meantime, I’ll be thinking about you and praying for you and your family.

Post # 36
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m just so, so incredibly sorry. Even just thinking about losing my sister, and in such a mysterious and stressful way, makes me sick to my stomach. You’re incredibly strong for keeping it together, especially with a newborn. I really admire your strength just for writing this and getting it out there (sometimes that helps, too).

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I wanted to respond immediately upon reading your message here.  I am crying for you as I write.  This is unimaginable to me  – and i wish I could help you deal with this pain.

Mostly, I wanted to write to thank you for sharing your story.  Your story has resonated so deeply with me.  I have been very angry with my (twin) brother (and only sibling) lately.  He had a child with his girlfriend and when they got pregnant there was NO judgment – on the contrary, my entire family was thrilled.  Then, in the middle of her pregnancy he left her.   She lives 2 hours away from him and he never sees her.  My niece is 2.5 years old now and the last time he saw her was the day she was born. It has caused incredible heartache and anger for myself and my parents.  I haven’t been able to let go of my anger toward him.  I didn’t speak to him for about a year.  

AFter reading your post, I am inspired to put my anger behind me and treat him with the love I have for him.  I want him to always know that I love him no matter what.

Thank you for the wake up call.  I am so sorry for your loss.  I just wanted you to know that your story has touched a life and made a difference.

Post # 38
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7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m so glad you felt comfortable enough to share this with us.  I hope that just getting it out gives you a little more peace.  I echo everyone’s advice about therapy- it can help so much.  An unbiased and fresh ear can be so important in giving you real perspective on things.  Good luck.

Post # 39
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230 posts
Helper bee

I live in New Husband and saw this on the news. My prayers were with your family then and still are now.

Post # 40
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175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

That is terrible. I will be praying for your brother and your family.

Post # 42
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i am so sorry that you and your family had to experience such a horrific tragedy. may you take time for yourself to deal with your grief and live knowing that your brother would want you to continue your life happily. there’s no rhyme or reason that we as humans can make, but there is a purpose to everything and i pray that you will find your peace in time. xo

Post # 43
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5495 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

*HUGS*

Post # 44
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I am so very, very sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine. The worst of it, I’m sure, is the not knowing. It’s not fair. It’s not right. No one should have to deal with what you’re going through. I’m sure that your family and friends just hate to see you hurt. They feel helpless that they can’t take the pain away. You can vent to us anytime you want. As much as you want. 

Post # 45
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221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Amanda- When I started reading your post my heart jumped as soon as I got to the first sentence describing your brother. I remember his story so clearly from the news. The circumstances surrounding the whole event were so puzzling and heartbreaking. It has never made sense and always haunted me. I read many different accounts of his story, from first discovering it (coincidentally) on the blog you linked and then reading other news stories about it. There just was something about the story that touched me. He seemed was doing something all of us do every single day- leaving a public place, waiting for a ride, speaking to a loved one, and then poof. I can’t begin to understand the grief and pain that you, your family, and his poor girlfriend are dealing with and will have to deal with forever. I have lost close family members, but the story with Will is so heartbreaking because he truly was “lost”. I am so sorry.

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