Post # 1
The guest list has been the hardest part of this whole planning process!
I decided early on to limit it to aunts & uncles and first cousins on my mom’s side. Then decided if first cousins had young children, they would be invited too since they are all coming from out of town and it might be hard for them to find a babysitter plus I like little kids. But now I’ve realized that one cousin has two adult children that I have not invited – maybe that is okay? And another cousin has two small children and one adult child from a different marriage – when I sent the STD, I included the small children but not the adult child. Do I have to invite him? I barely know him really. Ack! Our venue is very limited and we are already up against our maximum if everyone says yes.
Post # 3
I just realized I called a non-married couple from my FI’s side Mr. and Mrs. (oops!). Mistake happen and despite me agonizing over all the details, names etc I am human.
If someone is overlooked and they are an integral part of your family then perhaps invite them once you get an idea of the RSVP count. I have a B list, perhaps those overlooked can be your “B” list.
Post # 4
I think you might be violating the sibling rule – if one sibling is invited, they all “should” be. Just because some of the siblings are young children doesn’t mean the older ones should be excluded. Sorry I would send out invites asap if you could fit them in with your RSVP’s that answer no.
Post # 5
D’oh! I was afraid you would say that
You are probably right and I should include him. He’ll probably come too because he’s friends with my other cousin who lives near the venue.
I’m feeling a little bitter (just today) that all of these virtual strangers get to attend just because we are related while I have cut friends off the list because of the space. (though in my better moods I realize that these events help me to get to know my family).
My worry now is that because this second cousin is close in age to the other second cousins that I have not invited (all adult) that they are going to wonder why they aren’t invited.