- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2015
I’m sure this isn’t the first time that this has been posted, but here I am.
He proposed in October, and it was almost like it never dawned on him that stuff would occur after he gave me the ring. He quickly got overwhelmed at how much I had already thought about and it caused some tension. (We’ve been talking about getting married for a year or so before he proposed, so yeah I had thought about things.)
The latest issue is the shower and registry.
He wants nothing to do with either. I can buy not wanting to be at the shower with a bunch of squealing women, but his whole attitude about the registry is just bugging me.
His is position is that we are going to be 34 and 33 when we get married, have recently combined two houses into one and don’t really need anything. Anything we do need or want, we can afford to buy ourselves. We are not broke college kids just starting out that need help stocking a house. To him, a registry is us begging people to buy us gifts. If people want to get us something, they can give us cash. If they want to buy us something then they can figure it out. I tried explaining that a registry is a guide. That if we leave people to their own devices without some sort of hint, we will end up with a bunch of stuff we don’t need or want.
I created a registry on Amazon and told him he could put whatever he wanted on it. Xbox1? Sure. Add it. Blu rays? Add it. Games? Add it. A garden gnome? Sure why not? Nope. A registry is stupid.
I suggested a honeymoon registry, because realistically speaking, we don’t need anything. But hey, that could be fun. Nope. That’s tacky.
I let it lie for a few weeks, and then when my Maid/Matron of Honor started asking me for shower info, I started thinking about it again. I brought it up again tonight:
“Hey. Will you come to bed bath and beyond with me and point laser scanners at things with me?”
“I have made it very clear my opinion on registries and that I want no part of it.”
“So what ever I pick will be fine?”
“Yes. You go and get what ever YOU want. I have no interest.”
So I guess I’m on my own, which makes me sad. I just thought this is something we would do together. You know, like you see in the movies.
My Maid/Matron of Honor is coming with me, but I just feel like that’s weird, but I think it’s even more weird to go alone.
Has as anyone else encountered something like this?