Post # 1
I’m sorry if this has been asked before- I did look around but didn’t see anything very recent.
My groom isn’t interested at all in most wedding planning aspects. In fact, he gets pretty annoyed when I ask him too many wedding questions. As I type this, I realize I might sound crazy because it’s probably normal for men not to care about the details. I just wanted to see how other grooms felt about planning and all the details? My groom told me all I talk about now is the wedding which definitely isn’t true but also made me feel really bad since it is a HUGE event, of course I’m going to talk about it!
Post # 3
I had a post similar to this one a while back and I feel the same way at times. Everytime I would mention the word “wedding” or anything wedding related he would get cranky and annoyed. It hurt at first but I just came to realize that there other things to discuss beside our wedding since it is over a year away. I realize yours is much sooner though. I’d say only disuss the things that you really need to with him since he’s acting like that. I hope it gets better for you though. =)
Post # 4
I think all guys are different.. my brother got married last year, and though he helped to pay for a lot of the wedding, he was fine with being left out of just about everything. If he was asked for his opinion he really wouldn’t have one.
On the other hand, my fiance is very much interested in helping and being included. He is also paying for a lot of things, so I’m sure he wants to know where his money is going! I don’t think most guys understand all of the details that it takes to make sure everything runs smoothly. Try to talk to him the next day or so about everything and anything except the wedding.. maybe then try to bring it up lightly and tell him that it would make you happy if he would give you some help, its his day too.
Was he helpful in the planning process before? Maybe since you’re getting closer to your wedding date he feels like things are pretty much done.
Post # 5
My Fiance is definitely not involved in the planning too much. I mean, he knows what we’re doing and he supports each idea (and will even pick a preference if I physically place two pictures in front of him and ask: “Which one”?), but he definitely doesn’t go out of his way to help me. He does listen to me vent and brainstorm, though, and I am thankful for that. But mostly he just wants what I want I think!
Post # 6
Totally normal, my husband didnt really have any opinion on things and didn’t care about any of the details. Didn’t care what colors, what flowers, what favors, what invitations, what guestbook.. you get the idea. Only thing he helped with was seeing the venues and picking one out and that we had open bar.
Post # 7
It’s definitely normal. I’m deployed right now and planning a wedding from here is tough, especially when my ‘coordinator’ NEVER emails me back. So I send my man to the hotel to talk to the lady and he always gets so confused with all the details, it’s actually kind of cute in a way 😉 And I tell him about ideas all the time and I get the same response every time: Whatever you want, baby. Haha. Find a friend who can help you make decisions if you feel like it’s too much (because most of the time it IS too much) for just one person if he doesn’t come around.
Post # 8
@moorelove: I would talk with him about your talking about the wedding. Sometimes men just don’t get it…. lol I had to tell Fi he was hurting my feelings becuase it seemed like he doesn’t care. It also helped when I gave him responibilities, or tasks for him to do. Then he felt mor eincluded and had ownership over certain aspects.
Post # 9
I think sometimes we can get so wrapped up in weddings that we probably talk about weddings more than we realize. That being said your man probably is more interested in the getting married to you part than the planning part. My SO at first found everything a little confusing but I sat him down and told him how overwhelming this could all be for me and he tried to be more helpful. I say if you have any gf’s/sisters/mom talk to them about your wedding plans they would probably be more helpful, my sis and mom have been life savers!