Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
I just read on Martha Stewart.com that it is an old tradition that the groom arrives with flowers to a bridal shower, right before she opens gifts, perhaps to meet those who may not have met him.
I think I’ve seen this once, when I was a kid but I didn’t know it was an old tradition.
Who are the flowers for? Bride or Host? And how would the groom know she is opening presents? What do you think of this? Have you heard of it?
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
Mine will be coming near the end to help load all the gifts in the cars and take them home, that’s how the many bridal showers I’ve been to are. I assume the flowers are for the bride and there is a set time for him to come.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
The flowers are for the bride of course! The host usually sets time for events so she will tell the groom that presents will be opened at three and that he should arrive a little before then. I think it’s adorable and plan on doing it for my best friend, her shower is next month.
Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
It’s not a tradition were I live. Here, the groom comes at the end of the shower to help load the gifts into the car. He may socialize for a few minutes with any remaining guests.
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
@julies1949: The same here. I’ve never seen a groom arrive before with flowers, and I’ve been around for a long time! lol
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
@Coral99: I’ve never really heard of this tradition.. however my Fiance did get to my shower as I was opening gifts and it worked out fine.. he helped out a little & got to say HI to everyone. No flowers though.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
Never seen this happen. It’s not ususual for the groom to show up at the end to help load gifts into the car, but to sit around in a circle full of women oohing and aahing over housewares as the bride opens each gift? Nope.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
My Fiance will be at my shower the entire time. A lot of guys are coming, and my Fiance used to be a chef so he is going to help out with cooking. We definitely don’t follow traditions (he’s coming dress shopping, already wears his wedding ring, etc.). It’s all about what you want 🙂
Post # 10
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Helper bee
Its a big tradition in Texas and it’s my favorite part. Its so sweet of him to show up with flowers for a quick kiss. It showss hes caring and makes him look sweet and dashing! I had my Out of Town shower last weekend and since my Fiance wasnt able to travel down for the shower he arranged to have my favorite flowers (Which are rare in the SW where my shower was held) delivered to me. It was so sweet of him and I felt so special!
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
@FutureMrsClayshulte: I’m from and currently live in Texas. Upon reading this on MS I have never seen this done at any bridal shower, except when I was a kid and even then that was blurry. I’ve never even seen a groom show up to help load the car. That’s always been the Bridesmaid or Best Man or Maid/Matron of Honor helping the bride.
I really like the idea though! I think it’s adorable and I know my Fiance would totally do it. I will have to mention this idea to my Maid/Matron of Honor who is hosting one of my showers! 🙂
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
My FH did this and it was great. We were in the middle of playing bridal games and he showed up with a gift. He stayed until we were done. I loved having him there. And it was nice for some of my out of town family to meet him.
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
I have seen it before at friends showers but I dont plan on Fiance doing this. He will only show up later to help with the gifts…I dont really think he would really want to be in a room full of ladies also where I live the Bride does not open her gifts at the shower but uses the time to socialize with the guests
Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Was done for my first Marriage (circa 1980).
The “family” shower was at my Aunt’s home… EVERYONE knew but me.
I got there… SURPRISE
Then we played games… then Gifts were opened… and lastly Eats were served
My Hubby-2B arrived just in time for the Gifts being opened (my Aunt either called my Parent’s Home… or they had a prearranged time). In any case, it was indeed very sweet his dropping by with flowers. I don’t think he was overly interested in the whole Shower Shenanigans, but there were a few items that caught his eye (it was a Kitchen Shower). Especially the small appliances, cookbooks, etc.
Lol, and of course he was one of the first into the Dining Room to check out the Buffet Table “Hon, you should see this spread your Aunt put on… sooooo yummy… be sure and try the Date Squares”
Then while the party wound down and I said my good-byes he had a Beer with my uncle on the back porch… and of course he packed up the car to go back home.
The second shower I had, was with the Neighbourhood folk I grew up with in my hometown… in that case he didn’t know everyone quite the same… so he just came at the end (I called him) and helped me pack up the gifts to take home.
This time round…
As Encores we had a Surprise Couples Shower… so we were both floored. It was a ton of fun, and in the end we packed the car together.
Hope this helps,
Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
TO @sweetchiquita12: you said,
where I live the Bride does not open her gifts at the shower but uses the time to socialize with the guests
Curious as I’ve never heard of this before in Ontario / Canada … so wondering WHERE you live, or is it just something common to your cultural background
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
Darling Husband arrived at the beginning (I rode there with my family) with flowers and a card….it was very sweet and I didn’t expect that! He stayed for a few minutes and greeted guests. He also got me a jokester gift from our dog that I opened cluelessly with all the other gifts: new undies and socks since Flynn eats them whenever he gets a chance. That sneeeeaky husband! 
Originally he was going to come back at the end with our dads to load up gifts, but their golf game was delayed so the girls packed them up.
Normally in my area the groom just comes at the end, says hello, and helps pack up gifts.
