(Closed) groom at the bridal shower?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
  • poll: should the groom be at the bridal shower?
    no he is not there at all : (14 votes)
    20 %
    yes he is there the whole time : (11 votes)
    16 %
    he might stop in at the end but is not there the whole time : (39 votes)
    56 %
    other see my post below : (6 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee

    I always thought the groom just showed up at the end to say hello and thank you to everyone and to help load everything up.  I told this to my Darling Husband and he hadnt heard that but said he would go if I wanted him to.  In the end I told him he didnt need to come and he was very thankful πŸ™‚  I think it depends on the family and what you are used to, but Ive never heard of the groom being there the whole time unless it was a couples shower.  Id stick with him coming at the end to say thank you and help load everything up.

    Post # 4
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    315 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think Fiance is going to come at the end: say hi, maybe grab some food, and help with presents.

    Post # 5
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    3344 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    You can have the groom there.  I believe that’s called a Jack and Jill shower.

    Post # 6
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    5154 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    It is traditonally at the end when the future hubs shows up…and he helps load up the gifts, helps older folks into their cars, etc πŸ™‚ basically, sweeps in as prince charming!

    I am sad because I don’t know if my FH will be able to come to either of my showers at the end…due to work…but one of them, hopefully! fingers crossed!!!

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    i have never heard of the groom coming but this is a cute idea!

    Post # 8
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    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I’ve seen it both ways.  I think if most of the guests are from his side, then it is understandable that he would want to be there.  And I can see his family wanting to him to be there too, because they’re getting these gifts for the both of you.  So if he feels really strongly about it, I say let him come!

    Post # 10
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    832 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    i think it just depends on the couple. i would love to have Fiance at the shower, but he’ll still be in basic training. ive been to showers both ways. its really up to you πŸ™‚

    Post # 11
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    408 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I believe traditionally, the groom shows up at the end. I’ve been to many. many, many showers, and that’s how it’s always been done.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    all the bridal showers i’ve been to ( and we will too!) the bride arrives and mingles, eats, plays games maybe, then the groom arrives and they open the gifts together, and mingle, eat more. But i’ve heard of showers where its the bride only.

    I def want my Fiance there to open gifts with me..they’re his too! But i think in your situation it would be nice if he was there the whole time πŸ™‚

    (i’d actually prefer my Fiance be there the whole time… esp if its his side of the family that throws a “bridal” shower.)

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee

    I’ve only ever been to showers where the groom is there the whole time.  It’s not a couples shower.  The room is just the only guy.  We still get invited to bridal showers (not Jack and Jill), but it’s understood that the groom will be there.  Where I’m from, there’s only one big shower in a hall, so both the bride and groom’s family get invited.  I’d imagine since it’s not in someone’s house that it’s just easier for the groom to just be there from start to finish rather than drive somewhere to just spend an hour or so.  I say you should just do what you want/feel comfortable with! It’s different everywhere.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    We had two showers, one with my family and one with his. For his family, he was there the whole time, for my family he came at the end to open gifts with me and help me load them up. I think you should do what you are comfortable with and talk it over with your Fiance to figure out something. Maybe you could have him come for the gift opening and just schedule it towards the end of the event or have him close by and text him when it is close that way he’s not there the whole time but he still gets to participate? Hope you two figure something out! Good luck!

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    It doesn’t matter how you do it! It’s not like you’ll be breaking some law  if he is there or isn’t πŸ™‚ I know the norm is that the FH shows up towards the end but I’ve also been to bridal showers when he was there the whole time. Most FH don’t want to be there though because of all the estrogen in the air lol

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