Post # 17
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Busy bee
I definitely think there is a difference between a traditional bridal shower where the couple gets stuff on their registry; pots, pans, etc. and a personal shower where the bride gets stuff specifically for her; undies, lingerie, etc. I definitely wouldn’t want to get lingerie and stuff like that in front of my grandmother and fiance, that seems really awkward. For me, my bachelorette party will be when I will be getting those types of things. Our bridal shower, which my Fiance is coming to, will be a lot of home things.
Since most of the guest list is his family, I would let him come especially if he wants to.
Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
When I first told my Fiance about the bridal shower, he looked so upset, because he thought he had to be there. I laughed, because bridal showers sound like a good way to torture a man.
So, no, mine won’t be there, and I’ve never attended one with a man. A Jack and Jill shower would be very different in activities.
Post # 19
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Blushing bee
Aparently the type of shower I have been to/been involved in (been in 5 weddings) are a cross between a wedding shower and a personal shower. No men are allowed (even the grrom) and you get things off the wedding registry and tame, grandmother not offending honeymoon nightware. Because of the registry items that is why the groom shows up in the last 15min or so to greet and say thanks. After a discussion w/FH about why this would make my family and I uncomfortable he is either not going to come at all or come just to pick me up at the end.
Post # 20
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Sugar bee
hahaha Fiance doesn’t have a choice, Future Mother-In-Law is making him and Future Father-In-Law come and be there through the whole shabang!
which will be fun anyway, it’s OUR gifts we’ll be opening together… and all my gf’s/bm’s love him and want him around for the cheesy games!
Post # 21
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Newbee
I feel like the groom should be present for the shower…I mean the gifts are for both of them, not just the bride.
Also, I HATE opening presents in front of people, let alone people I don’t know very well. It would be really awkward to me to sit in front of his extended family (whom I have met once or twice) and open gifts from them. If nothing else, the groom should be at a shower thrown by his side of the family.
Post # 22
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Bee Keeper
i’ve never been to a shower where the groom was there, except my own. and he was only there because we had a brunch at a country club and the boys decided they wanted food too, so they went to a seperate room while the girls had a private room. that didn’t stop them from popping in all the time though, they wanted to know what was going on, and it seemed like we should have just had them in the room with us the whole time, it was nice having them there.
Post # 23
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Blushing bee
I like the idea of the groom being at the shower, as usually the shower is full of family members and a few friends- people are giving both of you presents and celebrating the marriage of you both.
Post # 24
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Bumble bee
Both of my showers are out of town, and I’m flying to them, so we definitely weren’t going to buy my Fiance a plane ticket so he could stop in at the end of my shower. And honestly, even if the shower were here, I doubt that he’d come by–not his thing. It’s a cute idea though!
Post # 25
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Bumble bee
Normally bridal showers are for ladies only. Sometimes the friends or family of the bride will make a co-ed bridal shower. I had a ladies only bridal shower and my Fiance showed up at the very end when every one was leaving. I just showed him the presents and I think he had a piece of cake an that’s all.
What did you end up doing?
Post # 26
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Bumble bee
I see grooms there to open gifts more and more. My Fiance is just coming at the end to say thanks and hello to his family.
Post # 27
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Busy Beekeeper
I am having one (or two showers with ladies only) and one His and Her shower, so that he and his friends can come too. People will bring a pair of gifts ex (his and her bath robes). I think that it’ll be fun.
Post # 28
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Busy bee
My Brother-In-Law and sister had a joint shower where he was there the whole time and it was a blast! We played “The Newleywed Game” with them and all made up questions and then put them in a hat. One would leave the room and the other would take three questions, answer them, and then the other came back and tried to guess what they said. It was a hoot!
We also had them assemble a crib together (she read the directions to him to set it up) and had them change a tire together (he read directions to her and she had to do it). That was probably the most fun wedding shower I have been too.
If you feel really strongly against him not being there though, then tell him that. He should understand.
Post # 29
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Wannabee
I think you could combine them – otherwise leave it separate.
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