Post # 1
My mom who is throwing my wedding shower thinks the groom should be present. Now, clearly I love him and want him to be around all the time, I like the idea of having him there. but
1. It is a female shower, and I think he will feel out of place or akward
2. Is it weird to have him there when it isn’t a couples shower?
Post # 3
This has come up a lot lately. It seems that in most cases the groom has shown up at the end of the shower. Just to say hello, eat some cake, and then help pack up the gifts. I think this makes it less awkward for everyone involved.
Post # 4
I think I am going to have my Fiance show up at the very end. Just to pack up gifts. I think he would be board, horrified, and go nuts if I wanted him to attend.
Post # 5
In my circle it’s pretty normal for the Groom to show up towards the end to thank everyone and do the hard labor (i.e. load up the car). If your Fiance does go to your shower, I highly suggest he brings you flowers. Darling Husband did and all of the women seriously almost died. My mother cried and there were “aww’s” all around. Major brownie points.
Post # 6
I’ve never seen the groom at a shower before unless it was a couples shower. I think making him be at an all girl shower is pretty painful, if anything maybe the end of the shower like the OP said.
Post # 7
It is tradition for the groom to show up at the end, give the bride and mothers a bouquet of flowers and to thank everyone for coming. The bonus of helping to load up the car is there as welll!
Post # 8
In our circle, it would seem odd if the groom was not in attendance. Usually I see the groom and the father of the bride and groom at the shower. Sometimes even the brothers of the bride and groom will attend. You get a lot of household items that is meant for both of you so I can see the groom being there to open what are usually joint gifts.
Post # 9
I was going by this I pretty much think the knot is AMAZING so I was going with what is says on here for correct ettiquette.
Although it is my shower and will ultimately do what I want lol =]
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Fiance will show up either at beginning or end- there are family friends I’d like him to meet before the wedding, but there is no way I’d make him sit through a shower- he would be bored out of his mind (expect for bridal bingo, maybe)
Post # 11
We were both present for our entire shower, and he sat next to me to help open gifts. At one point he excused himself (I thought he was getting a drink) and came back in with a bouquet of flowers for me, and then we continued with the gifts.
No other men were present for the gifts, but my father and one of the hostesses’ husbands were there to help. They played music in another room.
At the end of the shower, my mother did the “panty line” poem with coordinating gifts, and for that they sent him out of the room (wanted him to be surprised when he saw the lingerie).
I loved having him there, and didn’t feel it was unusual. Most showers I’ve attended have had the groom present, for some if not all of the event.
Post # 12
The groom will be out with my uncles and my step father so they will all come in together near the end. There will be 50 women and were trying to take the pressure off of him.
Post # 13
My groom came in at the end to say hello to everyone and to bring the gifts to the car. He seemed pretty uncomfortable just being around a room full of women for a few minutes. I can’t imagine him being there the whole time.
Post # 14
My Fiance will be with me the whole time. It is a wedding shower and not a bridal shower and his name is on the invite too. Why let the girls have all the fun?
He will be one of the only guys though. Aside from an uncle, Future Father-In-Law, BIL and some young kids he will be the only guy. Otherwise the party would be HUGE. We are all adults and can handle ourselves in public so why should be issues?
Post # 15
@baletrina: Uhm, it’s not that my groom can’t handle himself in public, or would be in a corner rocking backand forth if forced to be in a room full of women for too long, I just have never once been to a bridal/wedding shower where the groom was in attendance, and from what I’ve read on ettiquette for showers, it is not good ettiquette to have him present if it is not a jack and jill or couples shower.
Ettiquette aside, I do not want him to feel out of place because I love him, not because he can’t handle himself.
I am sorry I just did not understand what you were going for with the “we are all adults and can handle ourselves in public comment”
Post # 16
yes its weird when it is not a couple shower, he should not go. This is time for you to be with your girls 🙂 If he is going to come I agree with PP it should be at the end
We had a couple shower which was so much fun! So we didnt have this problem