Post # 1
Ok Bees I’m looking for some help! My soon to be hubby is trying to pick out what he wants to wear for our big day. I attached a picture below of my dress for reference. He doesn;t want to wear a suit and I want him to be comfortable so I’m good with that. Originally I was going to let him wear shorts since we are going to get married outside but after purchasing my dress I don’t think there is anyway he can do that. I think the dress is too fancy for that. (My opinion but I am open to other opinions! – just not his because he can’t see my dress)
We are def putting the boys in gray or navy blue – we are leaning toward gray. He was thinking he could do a gray pants and vest (but not the type of vest that you get with a rented tux ya know the kind that has a back not just that satin material) white shirt, navy tie. The girls are in Navy (we have a very small bridal party – Just our kiddos)
I have been looking all over to find the right combo of what will look good. I see things I like but then I consider what my dress looks like and I start freaking because I’m afraid it won’t “match’ does that make sense? Anyone else out there struggling with this? Anyone have any suggestions??
Post # 2
I’m just going to finally say it. I think the bride and groom should look like they are attending the same event. When the bride is wearing the most formal dress she will ever wear in her life, I don’t think it’s too much to ask thegroom to dress up too. That “want to be comfortable” thing is BS. Well fitted clothes are comfortable.
For an Augsut wedding he could wear an unlined, lightweight cotton suit or linen blazer and pants and look like he cares.
Post # 3
I agree with julies1949. He should wear a jacket, at least for the ceremony. He won’t have to wear it for very long and then he can take it off for the reception and be more comfortable. Like was mentioned above if he gets a summer suit or blazer it will be breathable. I have a summer wool suit which is really comfortable to wear even when it’s hot outside.
Post # 4
your dress is gorgeous! I so get the chill vibe you want, but I mean…your dress is formal. So he wouldn’t really look like a groom without being more presentable as well? And not just that, but what PPs said, it doesnt hurt to put some effort on the ONE importnant day for the two of you. All other events he can be as casual as he wants 🙂
Post # 5
I’ve seen photos where the bride wears a pretty formal gown and you see the groom in jeans or khakis and a button down and they just look off. (And dont get me started on “but they are dark wash dress jeans”).
This was a situation where you guys needed to coordinate the formality and be on the same page before people started buying clothes. Maybe if you had picked a flowy white sundress or a tea length dress or at least one without a train instead of a formal wedding gown. But since you didn’t I’m in the suck it up and wear an appropriate suit crowd. He’ll live. He can take the jacket off later. Unless you are cool with him looking like any random guest instead of one half of the newly married couple.
Post # 6
I’m sorry, but khakis and jeans (or shorts of any discription) are a no from me with a lace dress with a train. You’ve picked a beautiful, very traditional wedding dress. He can pull it together and wear something nice for one day lol
Post # 7
I wouldn’t put him in linen because it will wrinkle horribly and make him look like a hot mess. But a lightweight suit is just as comfortable as a vest.
Post # 8
I wore a very simple dress and my husband picked out his own outfit. He wore dress pants, a dress shirt, tie, and casual jacket. I think it would look odd if your fiance doesn’t at least wear something like this, if not nicer.
Post # 9
The same thing happened with us. We got married in the Caribbean. Originally, I was going to get a simple, white sundress, and he was going to wear shorts, and a linen, or cotton shirt. I didn’t find a sundress, and ended up at a bridal shop, with a proper, multi-layered, beautiful wedding gown.
Afterwards, I said that since I went from a sundress to a wedding gown, his shorts’ attire, needed to be upped as well. He mumbled a little, but agreed that it would look better.
I still didn’t want overly formal attire for a beach wedding. So, he ended up wearing pants w/ matching vest in a linen blend, with a cotton, long sleeve shirt and tie. To keep it beachy/casual, he wore leather flips, with his pants rolled up just a bit. He wore his sleeves rolled up, his first button undone, and with his tie slightly loose.
For shoes, I wanted to go barefoot, for the ceremony so I wore Mystique, jeweled flips, that were easy to step out of, once I hit the sand, on my walk down the aisle.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2020 - Santa Barbara
I’m still trying to figure out my dress but I love this concept for him.
Post # 11
Massive ‘no’ on shorts – I am not a stickler for formality but that would honestly look so weird, and all the male guests would end up dressing more formally than the groom!
My husband wore grey pants and vest with a bowtie and no jacket, but my dress was a bit less formal than yours, more ‘garden wedding’-y. I do think a jacket would suit your dress best. Navy is a more formal looking colour – maybe navy pants and vest would suit?
Post # 13
Thanks everyone. He is literally in for whatever I ask him to wear. I was just trying to make him as comfortable as possible and he doesn’t love suits. He would suck it up for me for one day but I didn’t really want the first day of our marriage to be him “sucking” anything up. I had orginally wanted a simpler dress but I put that one on and that was that I fell in love with it.
I’ll keep looking
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
I gotta jump on the majority with this one, your dress is BEAUTIFUL so I think he should give in and wear a nice suit for this one, after all it is HIS wedding too, not just a school dance or something. You look too pretty to be standing by a man in shorts on your wedding day….He doesn’t have to keep the jacket on all day if he doesn’t want, just for the ceremony is enough.
Congrats bee and good luck.
Post # 15