Groom Attire Help

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m just going to finally say it. I think the bride and groom should look like they are attending the same event. When the bride is wearing the most formal dress she will ever wear in her life, I don’t think it’s too much to ask thegroom to dress up too. That “want to be comfortable” thing is BS. Well fitted clothes are comfortable.

For an Augsut wedding he could wear an unlined, lightweight cotton suit or linen blazer and pants and look like he cares.

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I agree with julies1949. He should wear a jacket, at least for the ceremony. He won’t have to wear it for very long and then he can take it off for the reception and be more comfortable. Like was mentioned above if he gets a summer suit or blazer it will be breathable. I have a summer wool suit which is really comfortable to wear even when it’s hot outside.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

your dress is gorgeous! I so get the chill vibe you want, but I mean…your dress is formal. So he wouldn’t really look like a groom without being more presentable as well? And not just that, but what PPs said, it doesnt hurt to put some effort on the ONE importnant day for the two of you. All other events he can be as casual as he wants 🙂

Post # 5
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Honey bee

Shorts?  Really?

I’ve seen photos where the bride wears a pretty formal gown and you see the groom in jeans or khakis and a  button down and they just look off.  (And dont get me started on “but they are dark wash dress jeans”). 

This was a situation where you guys needed to coordinate the formality and be on the same page before people started buying clothes.  Maybe if you had picked a flowy white sundress or a tea length dress or at least one without a train instead of a formal wedding gown.  But since you didn’t I’m in the suck it up and wear an appropriate suit crowd.  He’ll live.  He can take the jacket off later.  Unless you are cool with him looking like any random guest instead of one half of the newly married couple.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I’m sorry, but khakis and jeans (or shorts of any discription) are a no from me with a lace dress with a train. You’ve picked a beautiful, very traditional wedding dress. He can pull it together and wear something nice for one day lol

Post # 7
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Honey bee

I wouldn’t put him in linen because it will wrinkle horribly and make him look like a hot mess. But a lightweight suit is just as comfortable as a vest. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I wore a very simple dress and my husband picked out his own outfit. He wore dress pants, a dress shirt, tie, and casual jacket. I think it would look odd if your fiance doesn’t at least wear something like this, if not nicer. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

The same thing happened with us. We got married in the Caribbean. Originally, I was going to get a simple, white sundress, and he was going to wear shorts, and a linen, or cotton shirt. I didn’t find a sundress, and ended up at a bridal shop, with a proper, multi-layered, beautiful wedding gown. 

Afterwards, I said that since I went from a sundress to a wedding gown, his shorts’ attire, needed to be upped as well. He mumbled a little, but agreed that it would look better. 

I still didn’t want overly formal attire for a beach wedding. So, he ended up wearing pants w/ matching vest in a linen blend, with a cotton, long sleeve shirt and tie. To keep it beachy/casual, he wore leather flips, with his pants rolled up just a bit. He wore his sleeves rolled up, his first button undone, and with his tie slightly loose.

For shoes, I wanted to go barefoot, for the ceremony so I wore Mystique, jeweled flips, that were easy to step out of, once I hit the sand, on my walk down the aisle. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - Santa Barbara

I’m still trying to figure out my dress but I love this concept for him.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Massive ‘no’ on shorts – I am not a stickler for formality but that would honestly look so weird, and all the male guests would end up dressing more formally than the groom! 

My husband wore grey pants and vest with a bowtie and no jacket, but my dress was a bit less formal than yours, more ‘garden wedding’-y. I do think a jacket would suit your dress best. Navy is a more formal looking colour – maybe navy pants and vest would suit? 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

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newbee959 :  I gotta jump on the majority with this one, your dress is BEAUTIFUL so I think he should give in and wear a nice suit for this one, after all it is HIS wedding too, not just a school dance or something. You look too pretty to be standing by a man in shorts on your wedding day….He doesn’t have to keep the jacket on all day if he doesn’t want, just for the ceremony is enough.

Congrats bee and good luck.

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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newbee959 :  A linen jacket will be fine for the ceremony and pictures. Yes, linen wrinkles, but it’s supposed to.  If he puts on his jacket just beore the ceremony starts, it will be fine. Asothers have said, he can take it off for the reeption and roll up his sleeves, or wear a more casual short sleeve shirt.

This grey jacket

https://shop.nordstrom.com/s/nordstrom-mens-shop-trim-fit-linen-sport-coat/5303621?siteid=J84DHJLQkR4-2OBUuz8y5Qm_P4UDePZh_w&utm_source=rakuten&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=J84DHJLQkR4&utm_content=1&utm_term=666693&utm_channel=affiliate_ret_p&sp_source=rakuten&sp_campaign=J84DHJLQkR4

with navy pants

https://www.macys.com/shop/product/lauren-ralph-lauren-mens-classic-fit-solid-linen-dress-pants?ID=4460749&CategoryID=89&swatchColor=Navy#fn=sp%3D1%26spc%3D3%26ruleId%3D81%26kws%3Dmens%20navy%20blue%20linen%20pants%26searchPass%3DallMultiMatchWithSpelling%26slotId%3D1

He could choose a white shirt or a gingham check for an elegant casual look and can even go without a tie if he chooses.

 

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