Groom Attire…opinions please!

posted 4 months ago in Grooms/men
Post # 32
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Busy bee

ctbxbee :  In that case I think it will look lovely together in pictures and allow him to stand out while still co-ordinating. 

Post # 34
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Busy bee

ctbxbee :  lol! good luck. sometimes these decisions about bridal party attire seem really difficult but i’m sure everyone will look really great on the day of. 

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Dont let everyone make you think you are being bridezilla, just because you are concerned about how the whole look will go together. Brides are usually the ones who obsess over the details and obviously you are coming on here in an attempt not to ‘steamroll’ him and try to get other opinions to put it in perspective and decide if its as big of a deal as you think! 

I totally see where you are coming from (and if you care about details, a last minute change like this could easily make you think twice!) and my two cents? I personally like the look of the white jacket with all the other mens black jackets and i think the black lapel is a small enough difference, i dont think youll notice it in the grand scheme of things! My only concern would be him in so much white, against my white dress…the photo someone posted earlier of the look on red carpet, i didnt love his white jacket against her dress….with that said, I agree that the groom should definitely have a say in what he wears, but theres nothing wrong with talking it out so that he considers all the other details as well! When most guys say they want to wear a certain look, they are not thinking of anything but that look, not how it ties into anything else…. My fiance picked his whole wardrobe, but we kind of discussed how everything would tie together! If you go that route, i would find a color swatch that matches your dress, so that it will match and not clash! Good luck 🙂 

Post # 36
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Busy bee

ctbxbee :  Don’t worry there are some rude & mean bees in this forum & very clichy. I can see why you’re not happy. I hate white dinner jackets! 

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I think that what he has in mind will look just fine.  However, you need to tell him if your dress is white and not ivory, because in pictures it won’t look good standing next to one another if he is in ivory and you’re in white.  He will just look dingy.

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Hmm. I love the look on its own, but I kind of question how it’s going to look against your dress. I wonder if you could get a swatch of your dress fabric to kinda match against for a jacket? I love the idea of your ivory colors matching, I think that would look so sweet, but if they’re not exactly the same color it might look a bit off? 

Obviously he gets to wear what he wants, but I think you get that. You just got to make sure it goes with your dress, but I think it’s gonna look great!

Post # 39
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Also, if your fiance is looking to purchase the ivory jacket and black suit pant, I would let him know that that type of tuxedo is not universal.  If he plans on wearing a tux to many future functions, I would suggest a  black tux.  I think if he really wants the ivory/black pant tux, he is better off renting it.

Post # 42
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Busy bee

ctbxbee :  For what it is worth… I totally get where you are coming from. My Fiance does not care about clothes (or so I thought). In our time dating / engadged, I have probably talked him out of getting rid of at least 5 articules of clothing with giant holes in in them. I’m talking giant holes at his armpits. Holes in his pants. Holes in his shoes (that he actually tried to ductape together). Which reminds me of his glasses… he ductape those together too. It’s not that he doesn’t have them money for new ones; he just “Doesn’t care what people think and personally finds his clothes fine.” He wasn’t even wanting to “retire” the holy clothes he was wearing until oneday at church… He frantically whispered, “Stand behind me. Stand behind me and don’t move.” I was super confused until I saw… his pants wripped along the back so that it looked like a teanager wearing cuttoffs. Yes, with his butt was hanging out the back (in boxes, thank God). 

And yet. This man. When I show him a picture of what the I was thinking for the wedding party (all in black tuxas and a bow tie) was insisting that there was no way he was wearing a bow tie and that it was “hipster.” He said he wasn’t wearing anything other than a black suit, long tie. I was totally taken by surprise. It wasn’t what I was picturing at all. Personally, I don’t like when groomsmen have a colored tie or vest. It feels costume-ish to me. And I don’t like when the groom has a white tie “to stand out.” In pictures, the tie never shows up and it just looks like the groom isn’t wearing one. I was really thinking a classic / elagent look with everyone in a black tux and bowtie. Now, I am having to rethink the entire thing.

There is nothing wrong with you feeling disapointed. There is nothing wrong with you posting on here to vent your disapointment. “Veniting” is a great way to get out all the pent up feelings, so you can let it go. Letting it go… something a few Bee on here might want to try…

 

Post # 43
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Helper bee

http://etiquette-guide.com/white-dinner-jacket-etiquette/

 

There ARE white tuxedo jackets (completely different, apparently, from white dinner jackets). And a lot of Bonds (he’s been the long-term definition of male suaveness hasn’t he) have worn them. The look seems a lot more classic Hollywood than “hipster”. I think it’ll go well together, he gets to look a bit different from his men. And it’s more fair, he gets to take total charge of his outfit, just like you did of your dress – within limits, I’d veto it too if he decided he wanted a barney purple suit.

Also, maybe it’s just me but seeing that many men in a row all dressed in black tuxs seems more funeral than celebration. 

Post # 44
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Bee Keeper

jessiebear85 :  

“there are some rude & mean bees in this forum & very clichy”. Oh dear,  this tired  name calling ……I assume  you mean cliquey , (or perhaps  clichéd ) ?   Disagreeing  , even disagreeing strongly  is not ‘rude’ or ‘mean’  nor does it constitute a clique,  even if several people disagree similarly.  

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