Post # 1
The situation is this:
Instead of a Maid of Honour and a full bridal party like most of you, I will have one Mate of Honour (male). My fiance will also only have the one Best Man to match the line-up. Fiance and Best Man intend to wear matching suits, but I’d already told Mate of Honour that he could wear whatever he wanted. I’m not sure if the Groom and Best Man matching each other would make it look like I’m marrying my Mate of Honour instead!
How do you think the Groom and Best Man should dress in this situation? Should they match?
Post # 2
No one will be confused about who you are marrying. You are overthinking. If your fiancé wants his best man to match him that’s fine. Your man of honor is on your side so it’s totally up to you if you want him to match the other two men or if he should wear his own thing but it really doesn’t matter.
Post # 3
Overall I really don’t think it matter whichever way you go. They are not going to think you are marrying your friend. It will be quite clear when you turn your back on him and say your vows to your Fiance who you will be marrying 🙂
If it were me personally I would have the best man, and man of honour matching, and put your groom in the same suit but with a slightly different colour tie or vest depending on what your overall aesthetic is. For the sake of pictures I wouldn’t have everyone in different suits although really if you like that I think no one other than you and your Fiance will really notice. If you want to have your mate of honour slightly different you could pick a different cut or style of suit but keep the colour the same I.e. navy. I think as long as some elements are consistent everyone will go together but may not be “matchy matchy”
Post # 4
Oh no no of course people won’t actually get confused because every guest we invited knows both of us! 🙂 I just don’t know if it would look odd to guests when the groom and best man are in similar style suits or colour and the mate of honour a different set. I hadn’t thought it through when I told my friend he could wear anything when I asked him to be the mate of honour, but since the fiance and best man haven’t decided on what to wear yet, they could perhaps just follow the mate of honour’s colour scheme, with the groom wearing a different style to stand out.
Post # 5
Personally I’d find it odd why one guy was wearing a different suit than the other two, especially given he’s not the groom. But if you have a program or something that highlights the wedding party, I’d catch on pretty quickly it was because he was part of your bridal party. I agree with PP, I’d have the Bridesmaid or Best Man and the Man of Honor wear the same thing, and have the groom wear slightly different. You could also have all three of them wear the same suit/tux, but each wears a different tie or something like that?
Post # 6
I actually would find it a bit odd if the groom and best man matched and the mate of honour was different. If anyone is going to stand out it should be the groom, right? So I’d have the groom be different and the other two match, or all different if you a mix and match look.
Post # 7
If it’s your man of honor, attire is your prerogative assuming consultation re budget and style. So your fiancé was out of line there. That said, wedding parties need not be chorus lines. I think it’s refreshing when people ask their friends to stand up for them and tell them to wear what they like.
Post # 8
the guests won’t think much of it, but you may notice it in the wedding photos.
I’d say since you already told your mate of honor that he can go ahead and wear whatever that the easiest solution is all three wear what they want. But if he hasnt purchased yet, and doesn’t really care either way, all three could match too–I agree with a PP that it will be a tad strange in the photos the one suit that stands out isnt the groom.. but I’m also not sure how many photos you’ll put up of the four of you anyway!