(Closed) Groom Changing Last Name

posted 10 years ago in Names
Post # 18
1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think it’s amazing how supportive you are being.  I think it sounds like he already has his mind made up, so he must know about the repercussions with his mom.  I think she was totally unfair to keep him apart from his real father.  That is so sad, all those years gone because of her.  If anything, he should be upset with her, not the other way around just because he wants to change his name back!!  Even if something happened between his mother and father, she had no right to keep him from his real father.  I’m sure she will be upset, but if she really loves him, she will get over it.  He deserves to have his father in his life, that’s not her decision to make.  And I totally see his point, I’d rather have my real fathers’ name than another man that I didn’t even know, especially now that they are building a relationship together.  I think he’s making the right decision.

Good luck.

Post # 19
14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It makes perfect sense to me after your explanations. Especially if he and his dad are having a close relationship.

Yeah, you guys are gonna have to brace yourselves, but in the end, it’ll be the right thing i think!

I know my SIL was grateful to get married and shed her dad’s last name (she’s always been angry about the way he left)

Post # 21
4023 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Only he can decide what is best for him to do. If he wants to change his name to his original birth name, than you need to support him. But I think he really needs to think about that. Why did his dad leave? Does the name have a sort of meaning to him? It has never been who is was, so why is it now? These are things he should probably think about. You said that they get along great now and are having a relationship, which is really good. If he feels like he has finally has a family and belongs somewhere than he should do it. His mom may freak, but it really isn’t her decision to make and what does it matter to her? Her kids all have different last names!

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