(Closed) Groom Dropping At Wedding… On Purpose!

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I cannot imagine how I’d feel knowing that Fiance intentionally dropped and destroyed my ring for attention! I know some people that wouldn’t even have finished the ceremony if they’d known that.

Post # 4
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Wow. I don’t even have words. I feel for your friend, i can understand why she is upset. i would not be impressed. i think councelling might be a good option if they want to have a future. It will be difficult for her to not resent him for doing that. and more importantly I think the groom has some major issues he needs to work out. He needs to acknowledge that his actions are not appropriate and figure out why he feels the need to get this kind of attention. 


Post # 6
1294 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

That is so weird! I have never heard of such a ridiculous thing. I feel bad for her….bizarre. 

Post # 7
1784 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@ElayneRunner:  So has he always done this so that people will pity him/care for him/ give him attention? Because although this may have been the ‘last straw’ for your friend the signs of some sort of deeper seated issue have been there for awhile and need to be addressed.

Post # 8
1886 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ElayneRunner:  he sounds like he has some sort of mental issue, rather than just a need for attention… People just don’t behave that way when they are mentally healthy. If he wants to stay married, I’d make going to see a shrink a non negotiable condition. 

Post # 9
10380 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I can’t believe she married this guy without getting to the bottom of his problems or at least having a better understanding what has been going on all this time. It almost sounds like  a bad case of Munchausen’s.

Post # 10
2500 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It sounds to me like your friend’s husband is a major attention seeker and enjoys having attention for medical reasons. Not quite sure if it is Munchausens but it seems very similar. I’m guessing that he got attention for this kind of thing growing up so has stuck with it as a way to “get what he wants”.

I think he needs to grow up and stop acting this way. Your friend could probably get an annulment if she wanted to. However, if she decided to stick it out and help him through then I would advise her to ignore his behaviour and also get her to encourage others around when it happens to ignore it too…he will soon get tired of it if no one is paying him any attention. Maybe he should also see a counsellor for his behaviour.  

Post # 12
951 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

What the fuck?

That’s all I can think to myself about this.

Post # 13
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015


I don’t even know how to respond to that.

Post # 14
3232 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I would get an annulment ASAP. Imagine what he’s going to do when she is pregnant and in labor?  Kids need attention and tbis guy is going to start doing this crap ten times more to “steal” the spotlight from his own babies.

Post # 15
522 posts
Busy bee

@CorvusCorax:  Pretty much.


I would say that it almost sounds as though he is mentally ill. No psychologically sound person would do that just for attention. I mean, it was his wedding too. Definitely not normal and he needs help. 


As for your friend, it’s very disturbing to me that she did not consider this an issue before agreeing to marry him (or taking her vows!). 

Post # 16
9952 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Yikes !!

First I feel for your friend because she has a REAL Condition…

Her “faker” Husband has a condition too… but it is an EMOTIONAL one not a medical one.

Unfortunately, it is she who is to blame in going thru with the Wedding

If a Bride finds herself in a position where she has to give a stern WARNING to her Groom before the Wedding

“You Better NOT ___ ”  (no matter what those words entail)

In my experience… That is a very very bad sign for the Relationship in my mind.

A couple that is on the same page, and acting mature / respectful of their relationship and the commitment they are about to make, don’t need to make such WARNINGS

She clearly told him what was what…

The sad bit was she hestitated to follow thru (empty words)… that old saying “you teach people how to treat you”

Clearly she’s been enabling him in this stuff… as outsiders don’t know about his faking… not his employer, and most certainly not Friends & Family as witnessed by all those that rushed forward to his aid.

She truly needed to follow thru…

And when he pretend fainted, she should have turned on her heel… and left the scene.

Not easy… but it would have been the right thing to do

(Same thing I tell Brides who say they’ve had to warn their Grooms not to show up drunk or smelling of booze… if the booze is more important on the Wedding Day than respecting the Bride’s wishes, then this isn’t a good sign !!)

Your Girlfriend is clearly annoyed by his STUNT.  And none of the Wedding or Honeymoon… or Marriage so far has gone to plan.

She isn’t happy

And this isn’t a SMALL Problem, rift that can be easily fixed (the time for that / open discussion / counselling has long past) something that should have been done while dating !!

I’d be filing for Annullment at this point in the game.


Give her (( HUGS )) from me, cause I know it isn’t easy to come to that realization…


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