Post # 1
My fiance is the loudest, most confident person…with his friends. Get him out of that comfort zone and he hates it.
He is really put off by the idea of being centre of attention on our wedding day. I’ve already told him that we can just have the ceremony with only parents and close friends and the reception with the rest of the people we want to invite and that’s somewhat eased his anxiety.
Other things I’ve thought of which might make the day a bit easier on him is to invite everyone up to share in our first dance, I’ll do a speech instead of him and not have a head table.
Any other suggestions on how we can make the day less attention-y? I could get him drunk before hand, but could be messy
Post # 3
@Sesame Snap: xanax = relaxed groom.
In all seriousness, it sounds like you are doing your best to make him comfortable. I think just knowing he is going to marry someone who is kind enough to be accommodating of his shy nature should calm him down. Just keep reassuring him things are going to be great, and it’s going to go by so fast!
Post # 4
Haha I have the same issue. I told him to deal with it for a day.
You’re a more patient person than I am!
Post # 5
Aren’t you a lovely FI! I think the suggestions you’ve mentioned should help him a lot. I share his anxiety about being the center of attention… but for our formal wedding day/renewal of vows, Darling Husband wants the whole kit and kaboodle. He could take a few pointers from you 🙂
Post # 6
My Darling Husband is the same way. And my Father-In-Law is mentally ill, part of which includes a huge phobia of crowds. So we did our wedding our way and tried to keep everyone comfortable. Yes, some rude people had comments. They were told by my Maid/Matron of Honor that when they got married they could do things however they wanted, just like we did :). You have some wonderful ideas.
For the first dance maybe you could dance alone just until the first chorus and then have poeple join you? That way you could get some good photos of the two of you alone.
We did not give speeches on our day.We had the bridal party do it. The Best Man was almost as nervous as the groom but he sucked it up!
Just remember, your day = your way!