Post # 1
My fiance has a lovely black Zegna suit he recently bought and would love to wear at our wedding because a) it is an outdoor wedding with reception in a barn so not tux appropriate, b) it looks really hot on him & would be hard to find in a rental.
He only has a best man & we don’t want our best man to spend money but he only has a grey or navy pinstripe suit. I think they grey would look best with our colors, yellow bridesmaids & silver embroidery on my ivory dress.
What I’m worried about is him not matching the groom or anyone else. Usually the groom might be different but the groomsmen match each other. It’s just going to be 2 guys with different colored, different styled suits. One with a different lapel & pinstripes. What do you think? Should we ask the best man to rent a plain black suit so that it will not be exactly the same but closer?
Post # 3
how noticeable are the pinstripes? usually you can’t even see them from far away/in pictures. since there’s only one groomsman, i would let it go.
Post # 4
The best man lives out of town so I’m going by the photos he sent me. I can kinda see them in the distant photos & really see them close up but I’m also worried about how it will look in person.
Post # 5
If it is an outdoor wedding, will they even be wearing their jackets? If not, I don’t think it would be a problem, but I’d have to see pictures.
Is it an option to buy him a black suit as a groomsman’s gift? They can be pretty affordable, I’ve seen nice (enough) black suits at Nordstrom Rack or on sale at Macy’s.
Post # 6
The wedding party is so small, I don’t really see the point in trying to be matchy-matchy. The grey suit keeps him in cohesion with the colors of your wedding.
Full disclosure: I’m not one who’s big into matching everything anyway. I think everyone will look great if they are allowed to look their best, as opposed to be forced to don something that doesn’t fit them. I think you have an opportunity to have the best looking wedding party on earth because you will not be forcing people to wear things that barely fit. Don’t make the dude rent an ill-fitting black suit. He and your party will look best if you treat him to a trip to the tailors to have his grey suit fitted beautifully. Your best man and your man could make a little Bro-Date out of it with cigars. Shoot, since they both already own their suits they could spend a couple bucks on altered shirts too. Their “matchiness” will be the fact that their suits are fantastic.
I want to be in your wedding party because the pictures will be awesome. See I’m cursed. I look at pictures of 6 dudes in matching rental suits and I don’t see, “Hey isn’t it cute that they are all matching in the same suit?” All I see are pants that are too long and too baggy. Suit jackets that are way too long. Shirt collars that don’t fit. Boxy jackets with no tapering at the waist. (No offense tp anyone, really, my fellas had to rent tuxes. If they owned their own, I woulda let them wear’em. Rental’s the only way to go sometimes. But if you can avoid it: yay.)
You get to avoid all of this with the tiny sacrifice that they aren’t in the exact same suit. See… Matchiness, but nothing fits:
Post # 7
go gray! we looked everywhere for gray pinstripe suits to rent. we ended up with black for our boys. i think gray pinstripes next to black will look really sharp
Post # 8
sonj818 they will wear the jackets for the ceremony & vests when they remove the jackets after the ceremony. I think the suit he owns is as nice as any at Nordstrom or Macys but I guess if I really want black I can.
Verno Inferno thanks for your input. I was thinking it but wasn’t sure cos there are only 2 of them. I like mismatched in some things & matched in others so it looks intentional rather than shabby. I am having mismatched old wood chairs & benches for the ceremony & reception. No rows of matching chiavari or white folding chairs for me.
I’m also unsure whether to match bridesmaids or not. It’s very common not to these days but it looks bad sometimes mismatched. Maybe they just have bridesmaids with taste unlike mine. I could have matching dresses & mismatched shoes on them. I’m not getting “bridesmaids” dresses if I can help it as they are too espensive & have to be fitted etc. I’m hoping to find regular dresses in my color, yellow in the stores soon. I may not be able to get different styles in same color & fabric…that’s when it can look bad. I think same fabric but different style & same length looks good but that would require getting them from a bridal shop I think.