Post # 1
My fiance owns his own tux and black bow tie for events. I realize that black tie has a certain meaning, but we won’t be asking for a dress code. Word of mouth is out that it will be formal and I don’t really care what people wear even if it’s less formal. I’m just wondering if he should go with it or get a white tie so that he stands out from his groomsman? We’re having one attendant each right now, possibly two, and his guys will have to rent their own tuxes. The ladies are in champagne so I was thinking just plain black for the groomsmen too.
Which makes more sense —
1) Groom plus guys all wearing black bow ties
2) Groom in white tie so that he stands out and guys in black ties, even though we’re not having a black/white tie dress code
Pics of your menfolk welcome! 🙂
Edit: this had a poll, but I don’t know where it went ugh. WB is so glitchy anymore.
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Post # 2
Either way works, personally i prefere the black.
what does he want? That is the key factor
Post # 3
in that his preference should drive this. Although some modern enthusiasts of wearing White tie (I’m presuming that your fiancé is considering wearing full men’s formal dress, not just a white bow tie with his tuxedo…do I understand correctly?) argue that wearing White tie when White tie is not specified on an invitation constitutes showing up the host and other guests (esp. the guests of honor), I cannot imagine that anyone would find it problematic for a groom to wear White tie to his own wedding if it is a formal evening event where other men will wear Black tie. After all, if he is not host/co-host, he is certainly one of the guests of honor!
Post # 4
He said he doesn’t care and is happy either way! 🙂
Yes, I just mean which color should he go with. But like I said, no one else will be in tuxes either way. We’re not specifying and it’s not that formal, which is the only reason I shy away from him in white.
Post # 5
Forgive me; I was confused. I thought you were discussing Black tie and White tie as dress codes. If they will all be wearing tuxedos and your fiancé truly has no preference, I would counsel the black bow tie, as tradtionally black and midnight blue are the only acceptable colors for bow ties when a man wears a tuxedo (and IMO the silhouette of a tuxedo doesn’t look as strong if one deviates from this tradition). Perhaps your fiancé could wear a different boutonnière or pocket square to allow him to subtly distinguish himself?
Post # 6
wonderlily: or get a white tie
Not to worry, you made it perfectly clear you were only asking about the color of the tie.
I would ask him but suggest he stick with traditional black. I think brides worry too much about themselves and the groom standing out.
The bride is always the one in the wedding dress and the groom is next to the bride. One would assume that everyone at your wedding knows either the bride or the groom.
Post # 7
Ooo I like the idea of a different color square, and he will have a different bout.
Thank you! Ha, yes, we’ll be the two up front doing the vow thing! 🙂