Post # 1
My fiance and I have about 14 months until our wedding, but since I tend to procrastinate and am high-energy/stress, I am diving into the planning now. Unfortunately, my groom doesn’t seem to want to put too much effort into the planning…except when it comes to random details.
1. He only wants to use his friend’s catering business, but when I try to talk to him about how finding a venue that allows outside catering might cost more, he doesn’t seem to want to talk details.
2. He wants to have a semi-normal wedding, i.e. reception in a banquet hall or somethign similar, but he doesn’t seem to listen when I tell him what a standard banquet hall will cost.
It’s like he is picky about what details go into the wedding, but he doesn’t want to plan any of it with me. I’m so frustrated.
Anyone else have a similar problem? How do I bring this up without making it seem like I’m nagging him to either be a larger player in the planning or simply back off and let me figure out the budget/planning, etc?
Post # 3
Guys do really well with hard facts on paper. Get some quotes from venues and give it to him! That worked for mine! Also, have him write down the 5 most important things to him for the wedding and you do the same. Compare notes and see what you have in common and what you need to compromise on. My Fiance doesn’t give a lick about flowers, decor, and my DOC but we are making joint decisions on food, drink, cake (he reaalllly wants a traditional cake) and music! Maybe give him a few main things he can take charge of that he’s interested in? You’re opinion is important as well!
Just FYI, not all venues are more expensive that allow outside catering. I find the opposite is true! The places that require to use their food/catering seem to be crazy priced in my area and the food is sub-par (since you have to use them to book the venue, it seems like they dont need to work as hard for your food) Not to sway you or anything, but thats what Ive found! We’re having one of our favorite restaurants cater for waaaayyy cheaper than the catering quotes I’ve been getting!