Post # 1
I just scheduled our engagement shots in preparation for our Sept ’09 wedding. Well, as soon as they were scheduled I told my fiance and he threw a hissy fit. He thinks engagement shots are cheesy and don’t look very natural. He also objects to posting any photo of us in the newspaper (that is a whole other thread : )).
Now, mind you that I selected a photographer who is great at capturing a couple in their element and her shots are very natural looking. Based upon her website, I don’t expect any typical posed shots.
I already tried reasoning with him by explaining that "this time will never come again" and "we don’t have any professional photos together, won’t it be great to get some with us just having fun." I even told him that he might regret it in the future and that it is just a part of the wedding planning process. It has not worked so far.
Should I give in or go ahead and take the engagement photos on October 30th? Oh, and in case you are wondering, cost is not an issue b/c we have a great photographer who charges less than $100.00.
Post # 3
Hey caliwed, I had the same problem with my fiance and we just had our engagement photos taken this weekend.
His reasoning was that 1. it’s cheesy 2. it’s not worth the money 3. just plain lazy
First of all, our photographer included the engagement photos as apart of our whole package, so this was a nonissue. I think a great and important argument that won him over for engagement photos is the process of getting to know your photographer. Your photographer will, in a much more casual context, know how you two interact, beable to find good angles to photography the two of you, and establish a relationship with you guys! I can’t imagine meeting someone who’s supposed to capture my wedding, family, all our emotions without having first met him or her!
Lastly, I brought up that engagement photos would be an excellent source of christmas presents too since we could frame them up nicely for our relatives.
He was still complaining till the end but he had a great time at our shoot. Our photographer was amazing and I think he has nothing but confidence for her going into the wedding.
I’m not sure how stubborn your hubby is, but mine is super stubborn so if I can do it, you can too!
Post # 4
Maybe you can do what I did. I just told him it was practice for our wedding so he doesn’t ruin the important pictures!
Post # 5
My Fiance didn’t want to get them done either! Same reasons as you stated! I’m not sure what exactly got him to agree to it. I brought up different ways we can use the pics (STD’s, guest book table, etc) and he finally saw that it was a good idea. We had a different photographer than we’ll have at the wedding since we live in a different state than the wedding.
Just keep asking…he’ll come around!
Here’s a link to my post asking the hive the same thing!
Post # 6
just make him! you’re right, this time in your life only happens once. i think you’ll definitely regret it if you give in to him and don’t get them done. photojournalistic photographers can take some amazing and completely uncheesy shoots. just show him some of the photographers best photos and let him know it’ll mean a lot to you. just bat your eyes and give him a puppy dog face – that’s irresistable!
Post # 7
For $100 he can give two hours of his life to make you happy. I highly doubt he will still think them cheesy when he sees them. Care to share a link to your photographer?
Post # 8
Thanks for the pep talk guys! I am going to push forward with the e-session as planned and I am very excited. Niki, my photographer is Jen Wilkerson at wilkersonphotography.net. I loved her the first time that we met and she definitely put me at ease.
Post # 9
My fiance was initially opposed to an engagement photo session too, but in our case it was mostly due to cost (an engagement session was not included with our wedding photo package).
But, he went along with it anyway when he saw how important it was to me, and after it was done he said it was one of the best days we had since we got engaged. We did ours on a boardwalk at the Jersey shore this past summer and we had so much fun… and all the wise guys heckling us and shouting at us to get a room whenever we did a kiss pose were absolutely hilarious and led to the most natural laughing/smiling pictures of ourselves we’ve ever taken. …not that I’m suggesting you seek out a location where you’ll be heckled, lol, but don’t rule out a place where that might happen either
We’re using our photos in our wedding guestbook and we also made save the date postcards out of them. But more importantly, we got to know our photographer. We were nervous when the session began but we were much more at ease as we got to know our photographer’s personality and shooting style, and by the end of the process he was more like a super creative friend than just a random vendor. I’m glad we got those nerves out of the way pre-wedding cos I know we’ll have plenty of other nerves to deal with on the wedding day!!
Post # 10
On the objective side, getting engagement photos done is a great way to "test out" the photographer who you are entrusting your most important day with. Since your wedding is far ways out from now, you have plenty of time to evaluate those engagement pictures and how well you interact with the photographer and to change your mind if you need to 🙂
Post # 11
My fiance was a little ‘iffy’ about it, too, but we just got our proofs and he was so glad we did them. We got some great shots and it was even fun! I totally agree that it is also a great way to try out the photographers and see how they work so you and your fiance will be very comfortable with them at the wedding when the pics really count!
Post # 12
I agree with your fiance. I think they are cheesy and I’ve never seen any that I thought were not a cliche. We are doing the classic headshot (of me) for the engagement announcement- then again we are very traditional and "engagement photo shoots" are a bit much for our taste.